The re are plenty of documented cases where folks have been arrested because police insisted powder or residue were illegal drugs. And not until months later were charged dropped after lab tests proved the stuff was food or something else equally not drugs. This is potentially life ruining.

Why would they do that?

Uh. I’m a project manager. This is a shitty use of time.

To the second letter writer ( andJane)...if he agrees he’s a pushover and good riddance?

On the one hand, sure. On the other hand, publishing still heavily favors men over women in any genre that is taken seriously. Literary fiction for instance. I am marketing a comedic fantasy and have been told several times to adopt a gender neutral pen name, and also that female main characters do not work in…

The sex described above is clearly punishment for some awful act committed in a previous life.

I am an old. 51. Not married. Condom every time. Even in a relationship. Standard Tests for STI/STD don’t test for everything unless you make special requests. It’s not for birth control for me. For safety. Even then there are still risks. But I’m not willing ton be celibate. Also I may not be the right person to…

I’m kindof having an issue with designating family dinner as something not appropriate for really little kids because chaos. I definitely gre w up in a household with a lot of control issues so those dinners were not fu n much of the time. But I valued that time when mine were young. I just never let it degenerate…

This. All the this. Please sit in that ‘but’ for a beat. Best advice ever. Applies to many situations.

Not enough stars in the universe to like this properly.

It’s an interesting point. I worked for a major evangelical para church organization (as a contractor). I’ve seen several ‘true believers’ at a local bdsm/fetish club. Participating. All subs which makes sense. No judgement from me and of course I’d never identify anyone. But there it is.

This is a really interesting question for me. Like silvertiger I was youngthinprettywhite. I was well aware if it. Tried not to be an ass hole because if it. But aware of the privileges it afforded me. I’m also educated and I work in technology. The confidence that came with that conventional look offered advantages…

What you say here makes sense, but it’s really common for there to be inconsistencies in rape reports. Because trauma, PTSD, having been terrified and flooded with fight or flight hormones. Uncertainty of how much the victim should have fought versus how much they think they did. Many things contribute. A problem with…

Please write this book immediately.

Since you have no posting history I have no idea how to interpret the level of intended snark. I assume a certain level of troll. But I’m going to take this on anyway.
If you think I have not had that exact thought myself, you are sadly, sadly mistaken. He and have had these discussions. He has a personality that…

I didn’t. Well, I stayed longer than I should have certainly. Because reasons. Kid. An inculturated certainty that it really was up to me to change myself, that it was within my power to make things work. That he had me utterly convinced that innate parts of my personality were just wrong. 9 years ago I said fuck all…

Also. This essay is fucking brilliant.

Beckeld’s site. I’m having flasbacks to my marriage. To a philosophy professor. Who likes being called Dr. Philosophy Professor. Because he earned it. The pretension is....holy shit I had to back away from the site. That level of pretension tells me everything I ever need to know about a person. Would look down his…

There are no potatoes mentioned here. -10 for fake news.

I’m unclear on where he thinks the...I mean...is he saying...wut?