I just cannot imagine dating anyone who for years joked that they were going to marry me, only they weren’t really joking, without actually knowing me.

It’s incredibly creepy. I have a job that puts me into the local spotlight, and I have a strict ‘don’t make friends with the fans’ policy because you never know who is normal and who isn’t. Getting with a fan is bad news bears.

Am I the only one who thinks this is creepy? Maybe it’s just because I’m the same age as this girl. It’s definitely making me question where you draw the line between fan and casual stalker now that social media is so ubiquitous.

Sith over Awakens? You like to live dangerously my friend. You can borrow my flame shield. You’ll need it to face the incoming hordes.

“That’s a long conversation” translates as “I am not going to argue my bigoted point with you on record”.

It just seems like a cynical “Look at me, I’m very progressive, and let’s ignore that every textual interpretation of my work thusfar has been straight and white.” It’s okay that her work isn’t very diverse; that doesn’t make her an outlier. But I want her to own up to that.

I don’t know; it all just rings really hollow to me. Like, why does all this minority representation come after the books? It seems to me that she recognizes that she didn’t write a terribly diverse book (and that’s okay!), but instead of owning up to it, she’s trying to change it after the fact.

It is, and doesn’t that show (yet again) how we value ‘masculinity’ over ‘femininity’. It’s almost as though we believe girls are reaching to be tomboys, while boys are less than if they are ‘girly’ - such useless bollocks needs to (somehow) be stamped out of society.

I have a friend whose youngest son loves Elsa from Frozen. She was probably a little freaked out by it at first, but she has been awesome. I’m pretty sure she even bought him the doll for Christmas. It was so lovely: I wish more parents were like that with their sons. It seems more acceptable for girls to be tomboys…

I know - in thinking about it I don’t recall a single word about consent in sex ed. There have been many discussions here about education for college students but those conversations should be starting right along with kids’ first sex ed class.

I know I’m going to get yelled at but this is a good thing.

I don’t think it’s exactly controversial to say “by all means bring your food, music, language, literature, holidays but leave this ‘rape a smiling lady’ shit at home”

“...have the right to relax.”

I’ve never had a sex ed class where things like that were discussed. Just ‘wear a condom’ and (maybe this was already pretty revolutionary) ‘pay attention to a woman’s clitoris’.

I’m not yelling. I am nodding in agreement.

Maybe they should teach all men that sexual violence and rape are not okay.

I know I’m going to get yelled at but this is a good thing. Someone has to teach them how to comport themselves in other countries. What’s legal in their country (outright subjugation of women, rape at will) isn’t in other countries.

That’s what kills me about those types of arguments. They’re so patronizing and belittling of men—it baffles me that more men aren’t furious about it. But I think it’s like the whole “Men are just too stupid to do housework/take care of their children” bit. Yes, it’s terribly sexist, but it’s also extremely beneficial…

“Men have weaknesses and when they see someone smiling it is difficult to control”

I’m an immigrant and I totally think the value system of the adoptive country should be privileged over the value system of the home country. That’s why I left. Because the value system of the home country sucked ass.