Uff, this is such a terribly condescending article. As an Indian urban woman from a city, I find her tone patronising to say the least. I have no desire to defend the deep patriarchal mindset that most Indian men, and several women, in my country swear by - but c’mon, this is ridiculous. She goes to a semi-urban part…

I’m commenting so I can find my way back here in case she comes back to tell us why her dad blew her off.

You know, I take serious issue with the fact we are calling this idiotic. The jokes he wrote weren’t funny, and they were definitely antisemitic and weirdly misogynistic for literally no reason. It didn’t even improve the stupid, shitty jokes. Had he been, say, a Republican staffer who was making inappropriate…

Ooof... Nothing as fun as gaslighting. Fuck that guy. It's because of a similar experience that I will now and forever ALWAYS trust my gut feeling.

Yep, gas lighting will really fuck with your head and make you question your own reality. I lived with it for a long time without realising it and it took me quite awhile to get my shit together again.

Excellent. Don't write her. Ever. Never, ever.

Mine is in NYC too. Yikes!

And that's the thing right? I'm sure my ex's new girlfriend is too. Right now she thinks he's the greatest thing that ever happened to her...not knowing he is the worst. But we can't warm anyone. They have to learn for themselves.

He guessed you "should probably get married" after all that is my favorite. Because accusing you of being crazy and suggesting you seek help while he's fucking around is a fantastic foundation for a healthy long term commitment. Eat a bag of dicks! You can send these to her, too:

Classic cheater bullshit is to tell you you're crazy while insisting it's your fault their dick landed in someone else's vagina. And yeah, the woman who knew you were in the picture and still banged your boyfriend? Fuck her. Get some pride and self-respect (her, not you).

My ex, she gaslit me at the end too. Only took a year or two to get over that while she started dating another dude three weeks after our breakup.

It's a type. Both him and her.

Ugh. Gas lighting piece of shit. The worst part about that, in my experience and I know for others, is that it's not just that you feel crazy about that ONE thing, because you're so SURE but you keep being told you're wrong... it's that you start to feel crazy about everything, because IF you can be that sure about…

Oh, Ms.Andry, I feel your pain. I was married to a gaslighting, abusive arsehole for 5 years. He used to enjoy kicking me under tables, pinching me, and glaring at me for the slightest thing he thought was embarassing (which was a sure sign that there was a scary argument the moment we got in private) whilst we were…

You are so lucky to be free of that esp before kids or something. Be well and free as free can be!

Still barf. Sorry that happened to you!

I'm convinced that only someone with a personality disorder (like a narcissist) is capable of being this manipulative and evil. I got wrapped up with one once, and know what it feels like to be gaslighted and to think you are losing your damn mind. I am so sorry this happened to you, and I am SO glad you got out. It…

Exactly. The psychological and emotional damage was much worse. I hope you're doing well/better.