All of them, because you're upholding the patriarchy. You conformists.
people throw 'biphobic' around like it's nothing. i'm not 'biphobic', it's not bisexuality i'm afraid of; i just don't want to date anyone where there is a higher possible potential for me to be left for a man. anyone can leave anyone, but since lesbians aren't attracted to men,. there is a much much lower possibility…
What part of me not wanting to engage with a racist didn't you get? You don't have a right to harass black people after they've asked you to leave you alone because they don't want to be subjected to your racism. By the way, your response to me just more of you self-reporting as a racist whether you realize it or not.…
I find that the "I wasn't talking about all lesbians" thing to be totally disingenuous. Maybe it is because I am black and I frequently hear a racist remark only to be followed up by, "but I'm not talking about all black people," I'm suspicious of that. When that person cited her sister, she didn't just reference her…
And, not a single person here said to him, "Listen, you're a white man and you, and the white woman you're praising for her racist remark, have no right to tell a black woman to 'stop it' when she objects to your racism." Contrast this with how if you dare tell a bisexual person that she or he has no right to be upset…
Whoa! I did not make this about lesbians. Three posters attacked lesbians and the way we choose to identify. I didn't bring it up. I asked that person not to attack us. THEY brought up Gold Star lesbians, they made the gendered insults about lesbians whining when we're insulted, and they went in on us for our sexual…
Thank you for saying that. Like you, I hear the hurt experienced by bisexuals (which is a completely valid orientation of course) but a lot of the time, bisexuals refuse to consider our perspective. I hate to be pessimistic but I fear lesbians and bisexuals may never see eye to eye on this.
seems like you're incapable of stepping outside your own experience. of course it's illogical to you, because you don't experience it. doesn't mean that society hasn't conditioned lesbians to feel this way. i think you'd do well to become more thoughtful and thorough if you want to discuss complex issues with people…
I'm so glad you're being understanding and trying to see my point of view. And just like that, poof, my insecurities (reinforced everywhere in society may I add) have vanished.
I feel like a bit of a broken record here, but it's because opposite-sex relationships are treated in very significantly different ways, both socially and legally, than same-sex relationships. For many people, a lifetime of oppression where we are told that same-sex relationships are inferior, unhealthy, and perverse,…
And I hadn't considered the fact that lesbians are coming from a place of insecurity fostered by society's treatment of them! This is why like in any relationship, we need more lesbian-bisexual communication. Everyone has valid reasons for their feelings, and understanding those reasons is definitely the first step in…
online they soooo fucking do. and many of them are very bitter about lesbians too. there are way more bisexuals than lesbians—-why is it so hard to believe that they have a louder voice online?
i understand that. i'm just speaking out because i hear so much of 'lesbians are ignorant and bigoted!!!' from bisexuals and it totally disregards society's shittiness that makes lesbians feels so insecure about being left for men.
Please don't tell me, as a black woman, to "stop." Don't tell me what I know. Her analogy was racist and inappropriate. You don't get to tell black people and black women how to feel. You know what? I expect racists to stick together. Good for you.
It hurts more for lesbians because same-sex relationships (and especially lesbian relationships) are not valued in the same way as straight relationships. Heterosexual relationships are seen as being valuable and real, while lesbian relationships are not seen as being equally valuable. Lesbian relationships are…
More lumping in the LGB with the T. I doubt many gay men, bisexuals as well as many lesbians need this service; it is obviously for trans persons and masculine or butch lesbians.
I am seriously disappointed in everyone here. This post has been up for over 40 minutes, and there hasn't been a single snide comment yet. Did all your little brains short-circuit in confusion over loving the LGBTQ community vs hating Lena Dunham so much?
This is exactly the kind of bi-erasure that makes women afraid to talk about their sexuality.
this is why i only ever hook up with the girls from tinder because one time i hooked up w/ this guy