Except that I did cite my sources from the get go: My personal experience. Literally all I have ever been arguing is that there is no one best way to praise a child and I used my personal experience as one example. And all I need is one example because the point I'm trying to prove is that this study is not always the…

"NPD is considered by many mental health experts to be a depressive illness, so the actual scientific evidence seems pretty stacked against the claim that this sort of praise alleviates depression."

Oh so you did read the study? And your an academic biologist so you know damned well that others cannot read it. YET YOU STILL DEMAND WE REFUTE IT WITH STUDIES. Honestly knowing that you read the damned thing says a lot about your motives here.

Whoa. I am in complete agreement that a child should not be told their IQ! We weren't told and good thing because even in gifted class people would try and rank each other. It's just a bad idea to give kids that number. I can't see that going well in any of the angles I try and look at it. I took a few tests in my…

"I still get depressed when I get yelled at for saying something I didn't because I forgot to simplify what I was saying (or keep quiet)"

NO ONE EVER CLAIMED TELLING KIDS THEY ARE SPECIAL WILL CURE DEPRESSION. I, in fact, already clarified this to you. Wtf are you actually talking about & why are you so bound and determined to prove telling a kid they are special is so awful? Why don't you prove your claim?

I would just like to note the number of commenters in this thread making all manner of spurious arguments that result in: gifted kids don't need help and/or do not exist.

Yrah no problem. I don't mind the question at all. Yeah, it's not really something they write about.

"If possible (and I realize it's not always possible), you sit with them for some of this work, and you praise them then, for working hard. Otherwise, praise them for working hard at running fast or whatever the hell they are trying to do."

Butches have a long history of having problems in bathrooms. So if the law says that you must use the bathroom that is the same as whatever is in your pants what happens if a woman thinks your a man? With no laws, we get everything from the very mild yet still annoying and/or humiliating (people staring at you the…

Yeah, I definitely see what you're saying. The statement that was made to me was more like "you have something they don't have and people can be mean when they're jealous" and yeah it was in response to a bunch of kids being mean to me in the first place so it didn't just come out of nowhere. At least that's how I…

You got me. Darn.

"...above and instead of..."

Let me paint you a short picture and you might understand a little more, because I can see what you're getting at here. Imagine two kids (say, me and my sister), one is average and one is very smart. Every day school work comes home. Every day one kid gets 100% and the other kid get's something like 80-90% (still very…

"do you mean that acknowledging the fact that your child is unusual and letting them know that that makes them great still helpful"

Intelligence tests do not measure skill at certain tasks such as reading. They measure cognitive potential. That is, the ability to understand complex concepts and tie many things together at once. Reading at a high level at a young age is remarkable for a person who's brain isn't usually developed enough to do that.…

Um low self esteem? Depression? Did you even read the last part where I mentioned a balanced approach of a little of both is probably best?

I wish I hadn't dimissed him before he got the very bestest part! Where he outs himself as a misogynist and likely a racist too! Now the undismiss button isn't working so lemme give you all a cute screenshot. :)

Oh THERE it is! I didn't mention literally any of that shit. You have an agenda. You`just hate women in general! You think we wronged you somehow. I see. NM. I get it. Fuck you.

You're fucking gross. Seriously. Why don't you focus your hate on straight people instead of your fellow queers, huh? Why so determined to prove lesbians are awful? This is beyond dude. You have a hate on. It's pretty obvious.