Yes, thank you for that. To use self-reported "self-esteem" measurements and self-reported childhood abuse admissions as some kind of blanket absolution for the gender dynamic in 99% of porn out there is... not exactly intellectually sound.

Yes, thank you.

I think she's defining free-spirited as "lacking in any critical thought" or "too emotionally lazy to realize that maturity means not acquiescing to every whim and parenting means responsible guardianship."

Holy moly. A typical beer is around 100 cal, a good beer (Duvel) is around 200 cal, and a Long Island Iced Tea is 530 cal??

Perhaps consider that when people comment about a thing, the impetus to comment is actually THAT THING, and not some ulterior motive born of ego and self-aggrandizement. Sometimes people just want to point out that, on a site that exists to deliver well-crafted content, having really POORLY crafted content is kind of…

Oh, no no, the emphasis is on "nice." Like, "This was a nice piece, I liked how it was an anecdote about self-realization." Much less disembodied, but yes, perhaps making it not a sentence fragment would have been clearer.

1) A nice anecdote about self-realization.

That actually made me think it was a satire account, but checking it out, I can't actually tell. If it is, she's missing the point of satire.

O_o

Just because you were able to talk to men who were there purely because they wanted to be aroused (some men get aroused by intelligent conversation! it happens! shocking!) doesn't change the fact that they were there purely to be aroused. And it doesn't change the fact that you were absolutely willing to separate your…

When I realized I had multiple tiered maxi skirts, corsets, lace tops, fringed scarves, loops of beads, and bandannas, the choice was obvious.

Seriously, it needs to be pointed out that just because you don't "feel" degraded, and just because you derived some healthy benefit in terms of body image and friends, it doesn't change the fact that the gratuitous reduction of women to nothing more than a writhing body on display for sexual arousal does actual…

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. +1.

For what it's worth, I'm a woman, and I never would have thought twice about that approach. I was initially confused when I read that she used it as an example of what not to do, because it seems like 110% kosher behavior to me.

Word.

YEP. This is what I found myself going, "WAIT, WHAT?? THEY LIED!" about as I flipped through. I always thought I was missing out on some mysterious and lovely B-cup ability to have a bandeau behave like that. I feel like I just discovered that unicorns aren't real. Damn you, VS.

This.

Hah! I obviously stopped watching when it stopped being kitteh-filled. Merci. :-)

What is that background music?? It's awesome and I would like it please.

My guy is 6'8". Every single day of his life, at least one stranger asks him how tall he is.