Um... read more carefully?

What an evocative description! Approve.

On the plus side, your immune system is A+!

I read it as a sort of, "Oh god, I see you, I see what you're doing, I've done what you're doing, and it's too much." That's the kind of subtext that can only have been communicated by eye contact in that encounter, but I got the feeling from the poster's resulting efforts that it was indeed communicated.

Short version: Yes, god yes, read it. You can live the rest of your life reading and not find another author who so deftly creates profound character depth. It's epic in every sense of the word.

So helpful!!

THANK YOU. I was wondering why I wasn't seeing anyone else freaking out about that. WTeverlovingF.

Yes, exactly. You can have as much soda as you want, but you have to choose it, not autopilot it.

Yes! Perfect! Thank you.

Yeah, the problem with them is that if your band is lower than 38, they will typically only have one or two bras in the entire store for you, if that. And if it's lower than 36, you're out of luck entirely. When I was a 38 band, I wore Cacique all the time! When I lost weight and none of it left my boobs, I had to…

I think victim blaming is more about not blaming someone who is victimized *for being victimized*. Like, it is not Rihanna's fault that he hit her.

Have you considered that maybe we're just excited to commiserate? I don't know anyone else who has to scour specialty stores for an F cup that doesn't look like a post-op brace. My friends cannot relate; many of the ladies here can.

I just got like 4 new-with-tags, high-quality 36F bras off eBay for like $20 apiece. There are apparently lingerie stores that operate exclusively on eBay, with great size ranges, at very decent discounts.

*WILD APPLAUSE*

O_o

Also because we distract the menz from their important work. See aforementioned helplessness.

Incredibly informative, thank you!

Probably cultural programming. Men acting on sexual urges are just being natural! They are helpless to resist their nature-given lust! They lack agency and therefore responsibility. So a man in an affair has been understandably seduced, but a woman in an affair is conniving, manipulative, despicable.

This is an excellent comment, thank you.

While I agree with you, I also think it's completely ok to call out ANYone, woman or man, who plays into harmful stereotypes that set feminism back. She doesn't get a pass just because she's got a vajay.