This guy definitely sounds like he chose to have at least 2/3 of kids. Lots of guys don’t, the same way lots of women don’t but don’t have access to abortion. That sucks, when someone makes a huge financial decision for you, but you know what? It happens. You don’t choose to get a costly disease or your house needing…
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Same, like I definitely have sympathy for this, a friend of mine just discovered his girlfriend (who he expressed a lot of long term doubts about) is pregnant and keeping the baby, but look end of the day, some things suck, they are not what you wanted, and you just have to deal. I know he is pretty pissed with his…
I have a kid. And I have a job that is so far from my dream career it isn’t even funny, but it has good health insurance, pays the bills, and flexible time for childcare emergencies. You better believe I’m grateful as fuck to be able to show up every day.
You sound just like these assholes that skirt their responsibilities.
Absolutely agreed. I was raised by a single mom who busted her ass in a career she never wanted because it paid enough for her to raise me more than comfortably, while my fuckwad of a biological father had to be sued for child support. I want to feel for this guy, but at the same time... naw.
And? If you’re serious about caring for your children, be the UPS driver whose wages are garnished 70%. That’s still more money than “I get paid a couple hundred dollars once or twice a year to write a rambling and unsympathetic think piece for websites like Jezebel”.
I was thinking the same thing. He sounds like a nice guy, but after you have children you have to adult up and do what you have to do to support them. And if your writing career makes $10k/year, then you need to find a new career. I realize finding jobs is hard, but if he can make $10k writing, I’m sure he can figure…
I don’t buy this, because it happens all of the time (both out of necessity and choice). My mother switched careers at 45 because her employer laid her off. She had no money, and utility companies were calling her demanding money or they were going to cut her off. But she made the choice, and scraped together what…
Ditto. Another out of work writer ergo not a good writer right? You chose to have kids, so support them. Seems like a nice guy but the pity party is not something I'm buying.
Exactly. Custodial parents don't have the luxury of giving ious to their kids. Am I supposed to feel bad for this guy?
Also what in heck is wrong with working for UPS? he didn’t want to work that job because it paid too little to HIM even though it was apparently providing his kids with money.
I sympathize with him only to the extent that I know CSS is screwed. That said, I agree that he has the freedom to choose to continue to attempt to wring out a writing career where the mothers of his children have no choice but to try and piece a living together without any help from him. THAT is something to feel…
That was my takeaway. Boo-hoo. What about the women you stuck with your kids that now have to take on added financial burdens because you won’t find a job?
When my daughter’s father dicked me over with the child support, I took an administrative job in a showroom and unbeknownst to me, one of my duties was to walk their mangy old dog. I hate dogs. Their dog was old and smelly. Ugly too. You best believe I walked that motherfucker and picked up his shit everyday. Fuck yo…
If you’re a huge asshole, then so am I. I was reading all the way through, thinking “Just get a second job at Taco Bell and pay your arrears.”
Same... while I have sympathy for what he’s going though, I was real interested to read the comments on this piece. Living the life of a starving artist is an okay choice to make if it’s just affecting you, but in this case? And affecting your kids for so long?? At what point are you damaging your kids to fulfill a…
No I saw that too but that’s like two things. You telling me the ONLY non-writing jobs he could get was UPS or pot farming? If true, then fine I guess. But that’s not what he says. He doesn’t say he’s been sending out 50 resumes a week to regular jobs and can’t get hired. He just mentions writing and these two random…
I’m probably being a huge asshole but I have trouble understanding how the non-custodial parents not paying child support are the victims here.
A very dear friend worked at the Ellen Show for almost a year - SO FUCKING MEAN. SO SO SO SO SO MEAN (at least, to her staff).