Regarding traditions, I think it's important to remember that it's the events that are important, not the dates. I married a nurse and with that came working around her schedule on weekends and holidays. You learn to take anniversaries, birthdays and holidays when you can fit them in, not necessarily on their…

I dunno. I don't think this to be the case. Maybe I'm the magical woman who's always been with dudes who want to go down on her, but I've been sexually active for more than a decade and every man I've been with has always done it. The weird part? I'm a lady who's not particularly into oral sex. I'd rather have a dude…

This, so much. I've heard from so many girlfriends about men they've slept with who didn't want to perform oral sex, but they still expected to receive it. Why is a man refusing to give oral more acceptable than a woman refusing? If the woman in the letter dislikes oral, then maybe they should just agree that oral sex…

Meanwhile, it's completely common and normal for men to refuse to give women oral for a variety of reasons. I find it "interesting" so many people here seem so comfortable with the fact that women can't say no to this act like men do. I've been in a relationship for five years where this was the case. And I "had" to…

I had a boyfriend who HATED going down on women. I would NEVER have asked him to. I just dropped the subject. Fuck this answer.

If you know she doesn't like it, why would you insist she still do it knowing she hates it?

This is why picture messaging is disabled on my kids' cell phones. As I said to one of them: "you can send dick pictures when you're paying for your own cell phone and not a moment before."

Honestly, if you put a bun in the oven, you are responsible for child support. If it can be proven that Shepherd gave her informed consent and initiated the pregnancy process as a full partner in the endeavor, then she should accept her legal responsibility as the child's guardian and the associated financial…

We just have them put out their clothes the night before, taking the confusion about what they want to wear. Plus, this gives them a chance to learn responsibility of a daily task and allows them to make a decision about their life. Decision making is a skill set that people rarely think about when giving kids tasks.

Excellent post.

If her husband convinced her to go through the process of having a child via donor/surrogate with bad intentions, that sucks. She has my sympathy there. By all accounts, the guy was no good.

If contracting the services of an egg donor and surrogate are a sign of not really wanting a child... I don't even know what to say to you.

I think it's fucked up.

This. I grew up working class and while I'm middle class now, I feel well and truly outclassed in any restaurant nicer than a Chili's or Applebees. Hell, even shopping at a higher end grocery store skeeves me out. I could date a foodie, that's fine, you do you, but I'd need my partner to understand and respect the…

When my (future) husband first asked me out, and asked if there was a particular kind of restaraunt I liked, I had to lay it out to him:

If by gendered they meant "made to fit women's hands easier" then it would be a welcome thing. But we all know that it actually means "pink".

The "pinkification" of everything from cleaning supplies to tools to razors to toys makes my blood boil. Why can't things be gender neutral?

I don't even "get" any of the first three things that you listed. When I was seven years old I was able to go outside and play by myself all the time. I was allowed to walk to the playground at the school 10 minutes away from my house all the time. I was allowed to do whatever I wanted outside as long as I checked in…

I was told that I was too old for my insurance to cover the vaccine cost, because I clearly had fucked around a lot by my age. (I hadn't.)

Zero physical keys. Its been a lifelong dream. Have a smartkey for my car, a keypad for my deadbolt and a badge for work. Its an amazing feeling.