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Ugh. Meghan’s family (except her mom) seem like the WORST. She must be wishing they would all just go away and be quiet. Like, I have some shady relatives but they’re relatively harmless and thankfully removed from most of my actual life.

But yet, that weird mourning of what could have been.

It’s hard to be the person that holds someone else up. But it is what she needs right now. So many people were like ‘whatever I can do to help, let me know!’ Well, you know what, I had NO idea what I needed, let alone the emotional and physical ability to articulate it and ask. I needed people to show up, tell me to

This is INCREDIBLY helpful, thank you. It’s so hard to know how to be supportive without being intrusive. I absolutely agree with keeping his name and memories alive, yet it’s the days and weeks ahead that I’m not sure how to navigate. Your suggestions sound right on and I’m also so deeply sorry for your loss. xxx

You’re not being a baby. You’re taking very necessary care of yourself right now. That’s very important. Feel good about that and allow yourself time to heal. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Raising my coffee cup to you, to us, this morning. The Day After Mothers Day. I trust we all survived? I too had a truly shitastic, unappreciated, last-last-minuted, half of a half of a half-assed Mothers Day, while I also grieve for my two mothers. My birth mother who passed before I turned 2, and my step mom who

A friend and I used to joke that we needed a card that said “You qualify for Mother’s (or Father’s) Day. Here’s a card.”

I also had an “unappreciated” mother’s day. I separated from my husband in the fall and this was my first mother’s day as a “single mom” and I didn’t get anything other than the things the kids made at school. And it just kind of occurred to me “Oh, I’m not going to ever get a mother’s day gift again - not until

My cousin’s wife posted about this yesterday. Last mothers’ day, (when she was pregnant and didn’t know it yet,) after a string of miscarriages and fear that she wouldn’t be able to have a baby, she talked about being so angry/afraid that she wouldn’t be a mother and seeing the mothers around her celebrated, and being

Ccycle 5-7 were the hardest. It took us 10 months, and it’s really not fun. A particularly large number of my Facebook friends got pregnant that year too.

The way you describe it, it got personal on a different level this year for perfectly understandable reasons. Good Will Humping! I hope you can celebrate next year’s mother’s day exhausted, but happy, reading your own mother’s day card. Internet hugs!

I’m so sorry for your loss and the grief for what could have been. People tell me happy mothers day but I’m childless. By choice...kind of. I never really longed for kids but I figured I’d probably have one. My spouse really didn’t want kids so I would have had little/not enough help if I did get pregnant. My only

I’m the adult child of an alcoholic. I’ve spent my childhood pouring my mother back into bed, trying to keep her from feeding chocolate to dogs, listening to the frankly bizarre BS that would fall out of her mouth. From the age of six I’ve been my mom’s adult. She gets drunk now and complains that I won’t give her

There needs to be one.

This is a weird day for me for the first time ever. My mom and maternal grandma are alive, my MIL is alive (and we have a good relationship). All that stuff is good. This year, however, my husband and I are trying to reproduce and we’re only 5 cycle in but it feels weird-sad to see everyone’s social media posts and

I’m so sorry. I’m a recent widow to cancer, but no children. I can’t imagine the added deep, horrid challenge of having children involved. All I can say is follow her lead. Everyone’s grief is unique and different. But if she wants to talk about him, talk about him like he’s active and impactful in every moment of her

My late husband always wanted kids. I was less sold, but was of the ‘I won’t regret it, probably’ land. So many of his friends now have new kids, and were all sharing about it today. Just made it painful for me about how much he wanted a kid, and never got one (for the better. This shit is rough enough without having

Today can be rough. I always said if I designed cards I would make a category of Mother’s Day cards that were emotionless and very matter of fact. I think there would be a market.

My dear friend’s husband was diagnosed with cancer less than 4 weeks ago and passed away in her arms last night. They have three young children. The email she wrote this morning to her friends and family about their love and life together was incredible. I don’t speak to my mom. I’m spending today in bed with my cat

Fucking this. I’m having a different flavor of not-so-great Mother’s Day—the kind where you are a mother who feels unappreciated—and it feels like fucking Happy Mother’s Day is EVERYWHERE. Can’t imagine what it would feel like to be grieving the loss of a mother at this time. So—if you’re having a not-so-great