One of the first things we learned in law school was to never wear pants in federal court and to always wear heels, tasteful makeup, do our hair, etc. Basically be pleasing visually. Be feminine, but not slutty, but don’t be so non-slutty that you look masculine.

So you think she just daydreamed up all the seizures, vomiting and weight loss?

Anti-decriminalization (I’m a sex worker and don’t super support legalization myself. I’m for decriminalization.).

Lena Dunham is the first person I think of when I think about women who hate other women. Her loud and proud paternalistic anti-sex work stance (all sex work is bad; trafficking and sex work are the same, etc.) , her all white vision of New York and that mega racist/nationalist article about Japan are not feminist.…

Yes! He truly is Jordan Catalano level gorgeous.

Aydian Dowling is the dreamiest dreamboat. His wife is so lucky!

One comment was about him calling himself an alum of Howard but he never graduated, one was comparing him to another author who she said wrote the book Coates thought he'd written and there was a third but I can't remember what it was. It wasn't about sourcing though.

Oh, no! Oops. I meant that just as another example, more in reference to Kara saying petty MHP is her fave. I think maybe she's talking about her ex-husband?

I heard Melissa Harris-Perry speak on Monday and she threw some serious shade at Ta-Nehisi Coates. Not sure if it would count as petty or not but her comments defintely weren't sugarcoated!!

Age stuff for women is so....ugh. I’m 34 (soon to be 35) and spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about it. Because:

I spend a sad amount of time thinking about age gaps in relationships. Sometimes I agree with you that it’s not the greatest dynamic (I don’t know if I would say gross), sometimes I agree with the people who say it’s not a big deal and adults can make adult choices.

I think Miley Cyrus probably has some dissonant ideas about what is ok/isn’t ok when it comes to men and young girls (or much younger women). She was sexualized at such a young age and her own relationship with her father always stuck me as creepy.

A Mexican bakery in Chicago is selling Trump pinatas: one has a cartoon of him drawn on it and one is a tiny replica of him, complete with his “Make America Great Again” hat. So good. So, so good.

So most of the upset over his comments is mostly about their background and the predatory way he behaved towards her, right? Because if he met her in another way when she was 18 - like, say, on a beach in Fort Lauderdale - his comments wouldn’t be any different from most men in age gap relationships.

Do you find yourself resenting the women you date for not being under 30? I find myself being torn between wanting to find someone and feeling guilty for not being 23/guessing that whoever I'm with will spend the whole time wishing he was with a young girl so I might as well just stop trying.

So why aren't you willing to date girls that young?

That’s awful. I thought it was bad that we only get 12 years to be an adult before we’re no longer loveable but 7 or less is so much worse. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that.

Ha! Most have felt that even over 30 is too old. 34 is moldy and 35 is expired. I think if I asked that in even the most hypothetical sense, they would implode (although that might not be a bad thing....).

I said this on the other thread but how nice it must be to be a wealthy man. I’m 34 and have dudes in their 40s and 50s telling me I’m too old to date. But this guy picked up a 25 year old athlete at 75 and they've been together for 15 years? Please let me come back as a rich dude in my next life.

Fellow EWF here. I was very sad about Prince, but had the same thoughts about Tori. I had a significant lack of parenting and feel like Tori kind of finished raising me (and has continued to do so into my 30s). One of my friends also said “what are you going to do when Tori dies?” and I started to well up just…