I’m almost ducking as I write this but: I think that sometimes non-ethical cheating is better for a marriage than doing the open thing.

Erm. Nope.

What? Who?

I am happy for, and admire, the people who can do mediation or yoga or read some books and find a way to make themselves want to still be here. Maybe I’m selfish or weak or ungrateful, but none of that helps. I am happy for those who can figure out a way to make their lives and situations work for them, but I know…

Yes. That is exactly it.

I’ve had two people in my life (my mother and my ex boyfriend) commit suicide and it’s something I’ve attempted and still think about almost daily. The “but her life was amazing, so many people have it so much worse” line of thinking is incredibly skewed in the same way, different directions. What might look like a…

Sex worker here. While the signers aren’t for the arrest of workers, they are for the arrest of clients. It’s a very “yes, Cinderella, you can go to the ball after you pick up all of these beans” kind of argument. They still want 1/2 of a sex work transaction to be criminalized, and that is still harmful to workers.

I’m a sex worker and back in my earlier days I was attacked by a client. I was too afraid to go to the hospital because I didn’t want to get arrested; thankfully the injury I incurred healed on its own. My abusive college bf used the threat of outing me to make me stay. Three months ago I was robbed by a client who, I…

Excited to see another sex worker around here!!

Of course it was a white guy. Who else would go shoot up a theater? It’s a testament to how deeply racism is embedded in our culture that it is consistently overlooked that horrific, violent crimes usually belong to white men - and that they are never attributed to anything beyond dude’s lonerness or mental illness.…

I’ve never been married, but I have been a sex worker for a long time and had an affair for two years with a married man. I am not proud of either of those things, and am deeply ashamed of the second one, but they’ve given me some seriously raw lessons about marriage.

Since this is sort of a weird story and Jezebel isn’t always super sex worker friendly, I wasn’t sure about posting this but....eh. Here goes nothing.

I totally get it. For me, at least, it made it easier for me to trust him, too. If he’d been all “she’s the worst, I’m so miserable”, I would have thought that a) he wasn’t self aware enough to see his role in his cheating b) he is a huge liar as their smiling family photos and date nights tended to say otherwise and…

I had an affair with a married man for two years (not something I’m proud of) and he never - not once - bad mouthed his wife. They were in a commuter marriage when we first met and the only ever even slightly negative thing he said was that he was angry that she wouldn’t move to live with him (He is the sole…

Uh, yeah. It is. If you enjoy a person’s body (and specifically their vagina) in the good times, you should be up for the bad times as well. Any dude who is willing to hear how hot his lady’s parts are for him should be willing to hear about when they’re bumming her out, too. Also, it’s just a body doing body…

I am so tardy to the comment party on this, but thank you for saying this! I think he’s hugely sexist (and smug) but thought I was alone in that opinion. He just reeks of “nice guy” insecurity. I wrote a letter asking them to knock off the derogatory comments about sex workers, complete with links to articles about…

I’m glad I’m not the only one! I can understand why some people don’t want to die, but I can’t understand why people would expect others to stay alive. I’m kind of the opposite of you, though, in that I think if I had someone live for - a best friend or a partner or someone who seemed to really need me - I would maybe…

The comments about suicide being selfish are upsetting but not surprising; but I am amazed and comforted by the amount of smacking down they are getting. My mother and an ex boyfriend committed suicide and I’ve never begrudged them that. As someone who has struggled with depression and suicidal ideation almost my…

I saw her show for the first time this year, and I can’t figure out where the deep hatred of her comes from. The episode I saw featured her speaking at a tech conference and she seemed personable and pleasant. Is she my number one go to role model? No. Do I think people take easy shots at her because she’s gorgeous…

Am I the only feminist who doesn’t like Amy Schumer? I watched her stand up special and found it to be of the “racist in the name of ‘feminism’” variety. Like, if you champion women (read: upper middle class white women who are exactly like you) then you get a pass on being generally terrible about everything else.…