Ha yeah I can get on board with both these examples.

Ok I mean I’m not here to argue that point. I don’t intend to do any of that either.

Agreed and I’m saying fuck all that. Except the playground thing. No pics at the playground.

I don’t see any sexual behavior in this video. It’s important to look out for red flags but it’s also important to know the difference and not inject dysfunction into otherwise healthy relationships.

Ok I think you’re going overboard. I don’t chide my kids to be more affectionate because they are 3 and 4 and are literally all over me all day. They’re not preteens yet. Lots and lots of parents do what Brady does here when kids get older and more aloof because it hurts their feelings and maybe they even think that…

I disagree with your whole boundaries spiel and I will say again, that with your stance on this issue I feel that you and others are inappropriately projecting sexual undertones onto perfectly innocent and in fact positive affectionate behavior. Boundaries are important in general but healthy expressions of affection…

You’re reading all my comments so you must have seen me say 3 or 4 times that I don’t think they kiss for this length of time usually. And I think that people who see this video and assume that they do are weird. My reaction to this video is like, a childish snicker and never even a moment where I actually think they…

I kiss my son in public all the time. I reserve the right to get pissed if people make sexually weird comments where my son could hear or read them. There’s no reason Tom Brady’s son couldn’t read all of this. I think it’s inappropriate and I can’t relate. I don’t understand your cake story.

See, you get it.

As far as sexual expression I’m sure I could find certain behaviors where I’d agree but I don’t feel that way about kissing, even on the mouth. I think the length of this kiss was just a fluke, maybe they were at a weird angle. So I’m not saying that about the length of the kiss just the kiss in general.

For sure.

I don’t think they usually kiss for this length of time. My theory is that the kiss didn’t land right or the kid was off balance at that angle. My 4yo son regularly lingers an extra second in order to fix an off center kiss, and he has no reason to feel strange about that given the nature of our relationship. But most…

That’s another thing tho. Parents don’t really pull back on affection, that could be very hurtful. And parents definitely should not express concerns about something appearing sexual, that would be weird for the kid. Kids usually pull back on these things in their own time and I think it’s best to let them dictate…

Of course I think that’s fine, why wouldn’t I think that’s fine?

Yeah it was too long. I’m guessing he was off balance or it didn’t land right cuz they were at a wierd angle. Or maybe he needs his kisses perfectly centered like my 4yo, even though he’s 11. Either way I’d bet they usually kiss quicker than this. I find it creepy though that people are always inspired to chime in,…

Because men are supposed to be tough blah blah. Before we had kids I was expecting a son with my husband and this came up for some reason and he said he wouldn’t kiss his son on the lips and the reason was simple machismo. It’s terrible. Obviously he didn’t stick to this and I’d say the reason is that for anyone…

Yeah but they find it strange because they view it as sexual. They should knock it off.

You know what really bothers me? When people bug out about kissing kids on the lips. Not everyone does it but when people do, IT IS NOT SEXUAL. People cringing like there is a sexual element is icky. It’s icky! That’s a father and son, clean your head. Damn.

That’s a really good question I hope it gets answered!

Is it the feathers or the skin/feather tube flakes? Sorry to be so nosy!