I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Tooo cute! Sometimes my neph will shower me with unsolicited kisses, which are very sloppy and awkward (he hasn’t quite got the pursed lips part yet) but still wonderful <3<3
I don’t think it’s overboard. I ask my kids for hugs/kisses most of the time (my oldest son is on the spectrum and sometimes he needs the deep pressure of a bear hug and is too upset to ask/allow it).
I don’t think that’s overboard, as far back as I can remember both of my parents would ask me if I wanted a hug and kiss before bed. Then one day I told them I thought I was too old for the kiss.
You should absolutely ask your children if they want a hug. After all, no means no. no matter who says it.
abusers take advantage of this to groom children, too. it’s a bad habit (insisting children allow people to touch them whether they welcome it or not) we need to get out of as a culture.
Awesome way to incorporate the explanations of private area and everything. Can I mention one thing you might want to add to your explanation, though (although I realize he’s nearly 3 so this may be a little early to say this)? It’s definitely his private area, but sometimes the doctor or his parents will have to…
The rule in our house is that you don’t have to hug or kiss anyone if you don’t want to. However, we do expect our kid to greet people politely (“Hi, Auntie Kate, I’m glad to see you, do you know my friend Lily?”). Other than that, if she hugs or not is up to her.
I notice that now she looks to me for cues for how she…
We’ve had this rule since before my son was born, and we informed everyone we could think of.
I always ask my 3 year old neph if I can hug or kiss him, or get a hug or kiss from him. AH but it breaks my heart when he says no! (And he says no a lot lately, because he’s three, and three year olds are adorable jerks.)
When I was very small, my mom had two friends, Mary and Inga. Mary was my godmother (she left our life when I was probably two, and I have few memories of her), and she liked to hug and kiss my sister and me. Mary creeped me out - at first I thought it was because she wore her hair in a giant, bouffant jet black flip…
I’ve been with my partner and husband for ten years now, and I ask before hugging, kissing, or holding hands. I see absolutely nothing wrong with asking for permission of a child!
Speaking from the single adult perspective, many of us wish the hell you would not even ask if they want to hug us.
But then you get into the whole, “is it good manners?” situation. Left to my own devices my parents are the only people I would ever have hugged or kissed. Everybody else would have gotten the side eye while I hid behind them.
My son is nearly three and I always ask if I can have a hug or kiss. Most of the time he runs over and once in a while he’ll say “not yet” or “not now.” We never push it or force it on him. I also warn everyone who comes over that he needs a “preheat” and not to expect affection from him unless he initiates it. It’s…
That is a much funnier way of responding than I would have done. Very good.
I don’t think that’s overboard at all. I have a 5 1/2 year old daughter and I’m a guy. I’m trying to teach her that if she doesn’t want me (or anyone) to touch her then all she has to do is say so. I tell her it’s her body and no one should touch her if she doesn’t want them too. And sometimes she doesn’t want a…
I’ve been trying to impress upon people how wrong this is for years. It goes against everything we try to teach them as far as avoiding predators. We tell them that if someone touches them in a way that makes them uncomfortable, that they should say somthing or tell someone - then we force them to be affectionate to…
I don’t think it’s overboard at all to extend it to yourself. I’ve often pulled my daughter in for a hug when she was tired/grumpy/angry as away of placating her. I think we should look at that as well.