The union is specifically asking for a polic y to be put in place to ensure the NYT’s uses trans people’s correct names. If the NYT has a blanket policy prohibiting retroactively changing names, they can either get rid of that policy altogether, or make an exception for trans people. I kind of doubt the union cares…

I know I shouldn’t be surprised by how callous both governments and corporations are towards the people living and working under them, but holy crap that’s awful.

They* but agree with you.

yeah...

Ooh! I’m sorry! I thought I was echoing your sentiment. They were treated as a product from a very early age and whatever they does or says now is pretty understandable as far as I can see.

Sorry if my comment felt like some kind of contradiction to yours!

It would have been better if I’d just made my own comment, I…

“I’ve never felt like I ever fit in anywhere. I was bullied horribly in school because I was different. The other girls never understood me. It got so bad that my mom pulled me out of school.”

It’s honestly, when you think about it, the most logical outcome of a closeted, terrified and ashamed gay man who is so repulsed by his own sexual identity that he agreed to go on The Fucking Bachelor in order to hide and deflect that identity. It didn’t matter to him which girl he had selected for him; she was only a…

The change of headline on this article is gross. The first one was bad and this one is worse.

I’m gonna guess his mind already wasn’t right before he was cast, and the show just amplified his problems and made them public. Reality TV isn’t exactly known for its rigorous psych screening.

I mean hey, did anyone NOT think White Boy Summer would involve assaulting women?

Absolutely.

As mentioned, there can be lots of reasons to be a virgin (a social construct with no biological basis!) and maybe not knowing where you stand sexually can definitely be one of them.

THANK YOU. You can blame Colton for being an abusive stalker (and I certainly do) but also acknowledge that growing up in a culture where compulsive heterosexuality is normalized and “manhood” is defined by aggressive sexual prowess with women probably helped to make him that way.

My best friend, her mid thirties, married....still cant have full on vaginally penetrative sex with her husband. She thinks is vaginismus or hymen too thick. He’s very supportive and they compensate in other ways but she is horrified about seeking medical help or getting a surgery.

Gay men can be controlling and abusive to women. And it’s not uncommon for closeted gay men who hate themselves to take out their frustrations on female partners. It’s not like gayness is a magical forcefield protecting them from the same cultural misogyny and toxic masculinity straight men are socialized with.

How about you lay off the "adult virgin is secretly gay" jokes.

I don’t think it’s unlikely that  he was stalking her because she’s a straight woman and he’s a gay man. He states that he had a lot of self hate, and self-hating men who refuse to acknowledge reality or get help are often controlling or violent to those close to them. It’s kind of their thing. Add in the fact that…

If we take him at his word, he could have been trying to make something work with Cassie Randolph at all costs rather than admit to himself that he was gay.

It’s about controlling her opinion of him and making sure she knows he’s a sex stud or whatever instead of reality.