A woman isn’t lacking in agency just because she’s making decisions you don’t agree with.
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Thank you. I agree with you. I am sick of the shit-talk about the new First Lady. I didn’t agree with a lot of things Nancy Reagan was said to believe in, but she was a woman in her own right rather than an “active participant...in a narrative.”
All of this. If Melania Trump comes out and says Donald is abusive to her - be it tomorrow, or in 10 years time when he’s finally dead and whatever NDA she presumably signed when she married him has lapsed, then I will believe her in a heartbeat. But I find it disturbing - but dully unsurprising - that so many people…
Given English is not her first language - her information and talking points are all going to come through Trump or his people. I’m sure she has some right wing views ( I doubt he’d have married a left wing progressive woman) but we don’t get to pick and choose who gets defended from misogynistic bullshit. Kellyanne…
Is there abuse? I think more of a emotional coldness/neglect. He’s using her as a trophy to show off and doesn’t think of her as otherwise. Is he violent in front of her? Maybe. His history with Ivana probably says so but I don’t think he’ll yank her hair since he also needs her too.
She could believe it but what if she doesn’t believe it and feels she has no choice to say it? I doin’t know the marriage or the relationship but if she is in an abusive relationship I know that people say and do things because of abusive realtinships they dont agree with. Again this is if he is abusing her or…
Or maybe we can ignore what she does and worry about what the POTUS is doing. Because he actually has some power. Melania maybe have the ear of POTUS, but she has just as much tangible power and you and I: a vote on a ballot.
I haven’t seen any evidence of her making choices or speaking her mind or offering an opinion not connected to the Donald. I’m not saying she isn’t a Stepford Wife, but I’m not prepared to say she ain’t either. There isn’t enough information to make any judgement about her at this point. I think we have to wait and…
I feel as sorry for her as I do for all the women who voted for him.
I get the distinct impression that she is just playing a role. She seemed much more confident before the whole first lady thing became a reality. I think reality gobsmacked her a bit along the same lines as it did her emplo... err, I mean husband...
Exactly. And let’s not forget that she married him knowing full well who he was. He already had rape and sexual assault claims against him. He had already been a serial philanderer who for all intents and purposes had nothing to do with his kids (save Ivanka) while growing up. She knew all this and still married him…
I think, too, that the belief that abused people just can’t leave (and yes, I understand the terror involved: I grew up in a horribly emotionally and physically abusive household) gives people an excuse not to help. So many times growing up people would lamely say, “oh, you’ll get out one day” and offer no recourse,…
Maybe it is her choice to be a trophy wife. It happens. Sorta like the Clinton’s marriage. From Hillary’s dagger looks that marriage has been dead for a long time. However, they could stay together for any number of reasons.
She certainly doesn’t seem at all interested in politics - she’ll just get trotted out by Trump when he needs a First Lady for some function or another. I can’t really hate her for toeing the party line - loathsome as Trump’s beliefs are, he’s her meal ticket. By all accounts there looks like zero affection between…
Thank you for this. A woman isn’t lacking in agency just because she’s making decisions you don’t agree with. I might concede that she’s in over her head, but to cast her as someone so blank that she can’t muster up the power to make her own decisions is a disservice to both her, and other women like her. Just because…
It’s basically how you make stovetop rice pudding, works fine with that so I can’t see why not.
I would try this next time I make oatmeal. Whenever I came across an idea like this, I would ask myself: what’s the cost of trying/not trying it? Worst case scenario, I get something that’s edible but not tasty, and it make an interesting conversation. And if it turn out to be wonderful, I have a new dish to make for…
I’m still not convinced. :( But it definitely sounds interesting!
Kerrygold’s garlic and herb butter is insanely good. I rarely use butter for anything, but do not hesitate to cook my steaks in this mana.