I think it can be exploitative and abusive like any relationship: it can develop over time and sadly it becomes harder to extricate yourself from it for a variety of reasons.

And why should you, big guy? He didn’t hurt your mother, wife, sister or daughter. Just other peoples’—and that’s their problem. Their women were sluts.

I’m sorry you had to endure this. Physical abuse plus head games and people still don’t believe us. I hope you are in a better place, and I wonder where all of these women ended up. Also sick of talk of men’s “natures.” They know the difference between right and wrong. They know darned well, which is why they had to…

Damn, you really want to tell me what to do and criticize my tone and as opposed to structuring any valid support for your jacked up opinion! Someone has some OVERT-ASS control issues.

LOL. I love that glimpse into her psyche as she saw no irony in what she was saying at that moment.

My husband calls this “guy hot.” When a white woman is blonde, not fat, not flat-chested, and groomed to “hot girl” standards, she can have just terrrible features but guys will still think she’s hot. “Hotness” isn’t about looks, it’s about conformity.

Exactly. Racists have long enjoyed minimizing and dehumanizing black women to servile sexual commodities. He was not on history’s upward arc; rather just continuing the long shameful history of racism and sexism in our country.

Okay, first, you’re an adult in 2017, getting upset by my language is idiotic

Here’s how that worked: “Go to the mansion and you’ll be able to model and maybe you’ll get a career or a centerfold. It’s opportunity! You’ll be a star, maybe!” That would be the Modeling Agency, aka procurer. How do I know this? I modeled in the late 80s and 90s in Chicago. the number of times I was told to show up…

THANK YOU. Black women were just another color of women to make $$ off of. That’s it.

“Don’t blame Hef. Blame the chicks that signed on to that madness.”

Oof - I agree with you. I should have explained my point better. I only meant that at the beginning of the relationship, the women are of consenting age and by all appearances, have consented to living in the mansion with him, pose for the magazine, etc. so that’s always been Hefner’s defence. He crossed his t’s and…

Well, it’s true society likes to simplify things. People like Joe Paterno and Bill Cosby were deified and that gave them license to act like monsters. I don’t see any redeeming qualities to Hefner or his legacy. Same with Donald Rumsfeld. But who knows, if we have 3+ more years of Trump my standards may change.

Her blood type is Butter

Sorry, sir!! I was waiting for you to give me my required reading list.

They probably made a lot of sacrifices in the personal lives in order to pursue a lifestyle they perceived as glamorous and progressive. Thinking they were taking part in some great movement, they probably severed ties with family members and conservative members of their communities and likely had nowhere else to go.…

I was a blonde for halloween once - my costume wasn’t sexy at all, basically jeans and a t-shirt that I wore to school every day. My white guy friends didn’t recognize me at the party and were hitting on me. I was really upset about it afterwards because the ONLY difference was my wig and some extra makeup that I only…

Maybe that’s why he spent most of his time watching. After reading this, I cannot even entertain the idea of wanting to know what went through this man’s mind 24/7. I don’t think that info. would even help us understand sex abusers any better. How does one understand evil?

I keep reading gross things about Hugh Hefner this week (none of which really surprise me but weren’t necessarily anything I sought out before) —and without fail, there will be a ton of dudes in the comments section talking about how he was great and did SO MUCH for women and how women need to “get over” all the…