I'm very sure that it does contribute to my view - that's actually why I wrote it, I think that often in this discussion there are people in the gray who are often left behind. I understand and fully support your reasons for not letting people touch your hair and would defend it to anyone, but I also felt like there…

I do see what you're saying. My mom was terrified of being the white mom with the black child with jacked-up hair. I think when we talk about things like this, we forget how diverse and intertwined society can be. We need to bring ALL hair into the spotlight

me personally? You bet!

Yup - he's five and he's all poop jokes and robot impressions right now.

Hahahah, I'm pretty fond of him so I'll keep him for now. He's pretty much this serious about everything, ESPECIALLY bowling.

Yup, like I was telling a white friend of mine who was saying that he just loves the "richness" and "vitality" of black pop culture, I said, "cool, but you gotta take the whole thing baby - everything that comes with it - and you don't get to just give it back when it doesn't suit you anymore."

But that's just the thing: when white, rich pop stars take the most visible, "colorful" parts from a small segment of a minority culture with no reference to or respect of the history of that culture it not only fetishizes the culture and denies the true experience of minorities, but it also traps minorities like…

Hahaha, thanks a lot! That fro is my pride and joy right now. I've been working on it for quite a while.

Hahaha, thanks! I've been growing it out for a little over a year now.

I don't see what any of this has to do with her criticisms. As a black woman, I am also sick of these things - but to in any way imply that black women deserve AIDS by straying form an outdated patriarchal view of society ESPECIALLY when we are so disproportionately at risk - is not only wrong, it is cruel and…

And seriously - your argument is - "Hey, don't tell the guy spouting off about how he hates women and gays and loves child molesters to fuck off. It's rude." Do you know how ridiculous this sounds?

I know, right? I'm so confused as to the argument here - who WOULDN'T tell that guy to fuck off?

Wow - that makes no sense whatsoever - you are working so very hard to cling to your argument here. And yes, I can have a problem with a guy at the party - or my dad (which by the way was your wacko analogy, not mine) - I would tell that guy to fuck off even if he wasn't a leader of millions (because he's a horrible…

Aw, see how you selectively left out the second part of what I said?

We are talking about the LEADER of that doctrine - a person influencing millions -influencing state policies, leading an organization that is protecting child molesters. So yeah, fuck that guy. I don't think that's a very extremist reaction.

I don't know...if you're afraid to tell your sexist, homophobic, child-molesting father to fuck off - sounds like YOU have the daddy issues.

If my father was this dude - oh I'd tell him to his face. If your own family can't tell you to fuck off when you are trying to oppress millions - who can?

For all the people getting offended about Lindy's choice of words for the title - let's do a little thought exercise shall we? Pretend you are at a dinner party, and some dude starts talking about how he doesn't believe in equal rights for women, access to birth control, prevention of AIDS through condom use,…

You forgot the whole child molestation thing as well. And by the way - if, like an actual person said, "hey, I don't believe women should have equal rights and I'm totally cool with child molestation and people dying of AIDS - BUT totally against the death penalty and I'm pretty liberal about immigration" would you…