I'm the same way!!! HATE patchouli but love vanilla/coconut smells-my wife says I smell like baked goods (which she loves thankfully!)

I love San Francisco! I suggest getting the Lonely Planet guide-it's a great book that has lots of insider info on the best places to go, etc. The Ferry Building is a cool place; it's a large building right on the bay that is basically a farmers market on steroids!

Happy Anniversary! My wife & I celebrate 2 years in August. We live in Rhode Island & got married shortly after it was legal. We met in NYC so our favorite thing to do is spend a few days there with our dogs! My wife spoils me by bringing me coffee & breakfast while I’m still in bed. We go go Central Park with our…

This married lesbian wants to thank you for writing exactly what I was thinking!

Right??!!

What do I eat when I'm stressed? The question should be what DON'T I eat! I use to crave both sweets & salty foods hardcore when I was stressed. When you quit drinking be prepared to have a lot of sugar cravings initially since there is so much sugar in wine & your body is use to having it! It does go away though, I…

I can completely sympathize with you. I use to drink 1.5-2 bottles of wine a night to deal with stress/anxiety/falling asleep. I hated the way I would feel the next day-bloated & tired. I also gained weight. Quitting was the best thing I ever did! I think it's amazing that you are recognizing that you want to make a…

Totally understand about the finance/insurance issue. I was given Librium to help detox & was only on that for the first three days. Detoxing off alcohol is much easier than coming off of long term benzo use!!! Librium is a benzo & makes you sleepy but you won't be given a dose that will make you addicted. It will…

I also wanted to add that I also have bad anxiety & issues when falling asleep-hence the alcohol & Xanax. I actually was put on Xanax to get off the booze & ended up addicted to it. I'm amazed through sobriety that I have managed anxiety/am able to sleep well. It does take work to get here but it's fucking worth it! I…

I am a recovering alcohol/addict (I was addicted to benzodiazepines). It's amazing that you have decided to take action to help with your issues! I drank like you too-2 bottles of wine a night. I tried a self weaning at home but I ended up needing inpatient treatment to detox/recover. I was super resistant at first to…

I am very sorry about your Mom. I am currently in AA & want to share a few things with you. I think it's very brave you want to do something about your drinking. Just because you decide to attend some AA meetings it does NOT make you an alcoholic. As they say in AA "the only requirement for membership is a desire to…

Ugh good luck with that! I didn't have to deal with racism but my extended family is extremely homophobic. They are southern Christians who find it helpful to tell me things like "murdering someone is the same as me being married to a woman" but "don't worry, they still love me because they hate the sin not the…

I completely understand you being skeptical about therapy. In the past I have had too many therapists to count that didn't help me at all & I was extremely frustrated by it. I've also had therapists that not only didn't help but actually made things worse! I learned that I needed to listen to my gut & not continue…

Good luck! Don't psyche yourself out. When my wife (then girlfriend) & I were newish in our relationship she was interviewing all over the country for jobs. She was so worried about finding a place that was good for both of us. I think it's incredibly sweet that you are thinking of you both! Go into the interview…

I can sympathize with you. Many people are in need of medication but any therapist worth their salt would not be at a loss at what to say. I am a huge believer in CBT-Cognitive Behavior Therapy. It has helped me & other people I am close to. Research & find someone who specializes in that. Good luck & don't hesitate…

I don't really have solid advice other than to tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Society puts a lot of pressure on us to be in a relationship. I think it's fabulous that you know what you want & you own it. I truly believe you will find someone who is similar to you & understands not wanting…

That is so rude & completely unacceptable! I despise irresponsible dog owners. My wife & I have 2 dogs & we clean up their waste no matter what. When you have your meeting with the board bring up that dog feces can have roundworms & hookworms which are zoonotic diseases (can transmit to humans). Good luck!

Thanks for sharing that! What a funny story about him playing in the snow. Half wolfhound/Airedale sounds absolutely gorgeous! I bet he looked hilarious with all the snow stuck to him. I live in New England too & my dogs love the snow! I will keep you in my thoughts. Don't hesitate to reach out if you need anything! I…

There is a lot of pet sadness here tonight! As I commented to someone earlier my wife is a veterinarian & I am a vet tech so we deal with euthanasia constantly (we work at an emergency clinic). We also have experienced our own losses with pets & it is devastating to lose them. I promise it gets better. If does take…

Your kitty is beautiful! My wife is a veterinarian & I'm a vet tech so we see sick animals nearing the end of their lives all of the time. I truly believe euthanasia is a gift we can give to our pets when it is time to say goodbye. That being said, my wife & I have great difficulty making that decision when it comes…