This whole thing doesn’t scan because Mr. “Straight” divorcee only knows this because he’s using apps as a thirst trap with gay dudes. The fact that he bothered to mention the ages of his actual friend, who may or may not be cheating, and his friend’s younger boyfriend reeks of repressed jealousy. It’s the kind of…

Yeah, it’s really hard to confront something like that without making it sound judgy or sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong, but I think if I were Mr Twenties and if my man were showing up all over Tinder and my friends knew and didn’t say anything to me, I’d be pretty hurt.

I thought I was the only one that had Wallace Shawn sex dreams. Did he call your dick “Inconceivable” too?

This x100, Freddie.

For a number of years, I’ve been in a long-distance, open relationship. Her one rule is “whatever else happens, I don’t want to know about it.” We don’t tell many of our friends about the open part either. She would be VERY upset if a friend of hers (or of mine) said, “I saw him out with another girl and it looked…

Plus it really doesn’t matter what kind of people they are when you’re talking about bringing up your sex life with your mother.  Meanwhile do you want to know all the shit your parents did with theirs?  There’s a reason they haven’t shared with you, kid.  What they did, what you do, just not a great…

Because I read Savage Love regularly, my phone’s news feed is full of advice columns, and it’s astonishing how many of those letters are a variation on “I’m an independent adult, but I want my parents’ approval in everything I do.” It’s especially perplexing (and sad) when someone wants their parents to be less…

Dear Nobody,

I think the role of identities really matters here. I’m a gay man, and if another gay man came to me with a report about my partner, I’d feel similar... sort of. But then, I’m currently single, and think if I got into a relationship again I’d be fine with my partner flirting on apps, or even hooking up as long as we…

I mean, call me old fashioned or New English or whatever, but I think the only sex-related conversations you should have with your parents are if you come out to them, or to ask them for STI or family planning advice.

That one cracked me up because it was a bundle of political neuroses channeled into a sex advice question. FFS people, it’s okay to have a private life with any disclosures completely voluntary and not based upon who the recipient of that information votes for. Your parents will not be any more thrilled to hear about…

This. Mr. Forties is his friend; he doesn’t even suggest he knows 20s that well. If he wants to say anything at all, it should be “as long as 20s knows what you’re up to. It’s not my business and I’m not going to say anything else about it, but I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end of something like this…

I had this exact dream, except when the sex worker arrived at my house it was Wallace Shawn. He said ‘nobody will ever believe this story’ and then I woke up covered in Ray Bans.

I agree, the fact that his friend is the one being shady makes it perhaps his business to ask Mr. 40's what’s going on, but not directly inform Mr. 20's as Dan says the young guy could be aware of the account due to an open relationship, they’re looking for a threesome, 40's has it up as an ego boost etc. I slightly…

I generally subscribe to the not my circus, not my monkeys philosophy of I think I caught someone cheating. The whole situation is really a catch-22. If you tell a friend that their significant is cheating (or at least you really strongly suspect that they are), you’re forcing your friend to choose sides: you or their…

As a note for letter 1, that could also shared by the guy who wrote letter 3, the first threesomes are usually a mess. Between my gay friends I have heard, more than 10 times, “so I stayed at these guys house and we starting making out and we ended up in a threesome and it was not nice”. Sex is complicated, with that…

Hey now, I have great advice on what tv shows and movies to watch. 

I’m just hung up on the part where the writer is wringing their hands about whether or not they should disclose their “deviant” sex life to a prude parent. And that it somehow involves Obama and Trump. And also involves their brothers’ sex lives.

Which just reads as fiction to me, unless I’m way out of touch and that’s…

As a professional amateur advice columnist, let me just say I don’t know who among us wouldn’t want advice from someone who banged his wife’s sister on their wedding day! Also let me say we are never letting you live that down!

I suppose it depends on the situation. It seems FIFTIES is only really friends with Mr. Forties, and probably only knows Mr. Twenties as the guy that’s dating his friend. So in this case, I’d say mind your own business.