the Wakanda of the real world

I have waited All. Week. Long for this. I was almost afraid there wouldn’t be a write up for Howard because “It’s Howard. Everyone knows about Howard”

This isn’t the Abuse & Oppression Olympics. Emotional abuse can be just as terrorizing as any/all kind of physical abuse, and it all is based on what the person being subjected to it feels. You don’t get to downplay the pain inflicted on someone else because you don’t feel it’s as worthy.

PJ, you have handled this situation with a commendable amount of grace, and already shown a lot of mercy to your mother.

I guess that’s more out of deference to you, rather than your Mom. My Aunt didn’t speak to my Grandmother for an entire year. My Mother and Uncles had to carry the slack for her lashing out because they day ended in “y”. Your sister really loves you.

She absolutely is not. She is more like me. She’s just taking the weight right now.

I didn’t equate the two. I never said it was the same as, the point was that his mother is causing him harm and he has a right to step away from her same as any child put into a situation that is unhealthy whether physical, mental, or sexual without bring told to get over it.

Mama drama is the worst. I feel for you. Last year I had to tell my mama no when she asked to borrow $700. This was AFTER I had already been hitting her up with $100+ every time I got paid. She didn’t speak to me or my daughter (who she loves way more than me, lol) for 5 or 6 months. It tore me up but I knew I had to…

I read a post on ESPN from some Green Beret that wondered why America is so fractured right now and never seemed to get how hard White folk’s whitefolkin’ is on the rest of us. I’ve stopped with the NFL because I just can’t see past it. I guess you’re going through the same thing with your mom. White folks gon white…

Wow. My husband has not spoken to his mother in three years. He got tired of being her “black-a@@ed” scapegoat while she cheered his light-skinned older sister on. She was never there for emotional support, and treated him as if he had no feelings. He got tired of it and cut her off. This is a woman who is very loving…

If you were a child of a physically or sexually abusive parent, no one would be telling you to basically get over it. When you engage in an action that you know will hurt your child, that child has a right to steer clear of you for some time or forever depending on the severity of the action.

Good post! Hope y’all work it out, Peej!

Nope. The City of Anacostia in the Douglass Commonwealth. I’m claiming it now while we’re still (at least) a (milk) chocolate city (with caramel filling).