FEM, if you want to have a relationship with another woman, then your boyfriend ought to be able to, also. Suggest that to him: "YOU can have another GF, too, and then we're even."

Sorry, but if I'm dating someone and she turns out to have really been a he, I'm gonna be pretty darned upset. And don't start with the "she really is a she". Maybe behaviorally, but if I'm going to start seeing someone sexually, the distinction is pretty important. I'm not interested in dating a she who used to be a…