hello, other queer person! i have a few not-particularly-well-organized thoughts.

I was actually thinking about what statistical trends in name-changing/keeping we are going to observe in same-sex marriages now that these are legal (in US). Ideally, they could serve as a negative control for measuring the inpact of sexism on names in het marriages. Unfortunately, you had a point with the reluctance…

I have an eeny, weeny teal diamond in a white gold celtic carved band and I get a lot of, “Oh, too bad” looks when I mention it is my engagement ring. No one I know has been rude enough to SAY anything, but the pitying looks irritate me.

Yes to taking victim as they come, but there would also have to be some level of negligence by the thrower. The central question in tort claims in general is was the defendant behaving reasonably? I have no idea how it’d come out, but the fact of injury isn’t enough to succeed on a tort claim.

Whenever a guy quotes Donald Trump I get angry enough to have blood coming out of my wherever.

THIS IS WHY WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF MEN. We get messages from men who think they deserve our time and a response just because they have a boner. When we politely decline, they lose their shit. When we ignore them, they lose their shit. When we tell them we have a boyfriend, they lose their shit. And then all of a sudden,…

Constanti-NOPE-le

i made up a new rule for myself last week, and i’m wondering if any servers want to chime in on whether this sounds like enough compensation:

We’re coming home along the Thruway and decide to stop at McD’s. There’s a woman and smallish kid in front of us getting huffy and I can tell this won’t end well. And in due time she starts yelling at the cashier, “Why is everything more expensive here? This is ridiculous! You’re ripping people off!” and so on, as the…

I once worked for a movie theater that had three screens. On slow days, we sold tickets from the concession stand, so we only needed a concession’s person, an usher, and the projectionist/manager. I had just been promoted to manager in training, and the assistant manager put that staffing for Memorial Day. I was still…

I understand the fact that Starbucks, by nature of serving so many people, is going to have many horrible customers. However, why must the employees deal with so much crap in a magnanimous manner. I just don’t understand why Brad is required to put up with so much crap from an obviously shitty customer. Why can’t…

You gotta love managers who can’t schedule. I had one job where the way the manager decided how many people were needed was by looking at the sales on that calendar day of the previous year - regardless of the day of the week or the weather. Both the day of the week and the weather were the main deciders of how busy…

Dear dining public:

Go you!

Ha! Yay, you!

You know what would really help the situation? If so-called “moderates” such as yourself:

A) Grew a fucking spine and stood up to the religious bigots and extremists who run the Republican party

or

Also remind him that the largest budget deficits grew under Reagan and George W. Bush. If you set them next to Clinton and Obama, you can clearly see that the Democrats actually shrunk the budget deficit while the Republicans exploded it in the name of “freedom” and “defense”.

It appears that through our combined efforts, hate speech against assault victims has been wiped from this thread. This is a wonderful victory. We should collectively thank the mods out there and also each person who voiced his or her concern that such comments were here where a potential victim could read them. Thank…

Human ecologies vary as widely as their habitats. News at 11.

I encourage everyone to flag the commenter in the grays for hate speech. It is hateful to the victims of child sexual abuse to erase and dismiss their assaults as less significant than some other sexual crime happening somewhere in the world.