“girl crush” = “we can make out, i may or may not touch your boobies, and then you can top me”

“girl crush” = “if this particular lesbian were into me, i can be pretty sure i’m like objectively hot”

“girl crush” = “girl I would def make out with and most likely let fuck me.”

omg omg omg the frequency with which this 30 Rock moment has run through my head these past six days.... White Noise, White Nonsense #RachelDolezalMemoirTitle

First: Congratulations! Babies are awesome.

My little chi-terrier-daschund-misc-etc-whoreallyknowsanyway rescue does this, too, with other dogs and with humans. With other pups, he needs to be the referee. When our friends’ dogs start playing, he won’t play with them, but he will run over doing little huffy growl-barks until he knows everything’s kosher. With…

Was also thinking last night about how coverage would be different if a dude pulled her shit. We’d still be making fun of him, but there are definitely differences in how we publicly shame men v women in this internet age of public shaming. That’s when I became uncomfortable and began having strange, scary thoughts…

Yes, there is definitely a difference between some jerk groping my ass at a bar and being raped. But I also think that minimizing non-rape sexual violation contributes to the bigger problem. There’s a whole spectrum of non-consensual behavior, with “violent rape by a roving gang of feral frat bros” or by a stranger…

have you been checking the resale sites like this one my physical therapist told me about? you can search for specific gowns, designers, sizes, etc. (doing more traditional dress shopping ended up being way too overwhelming for me; i went w/modcloth)

That whole narrative—that being groped or otherwise touched in a sexual way without consent is “just” that—plays such a large and detrimental role, imo. It makes girls, women, and other victims question their own assessment of whether or not a thing was okay. It’s gaslighting: “you think you feel violated but you…

I have so many theories swimming around in my head. I’m beginning to think she sees her past trauma and alleged abuse as a form of slavery. As a survivor of IPV, I get how she could make that connection BUT THEY ARE NOT THE SAME.

I think this is part of why I don’t like that this being referred to as “passing.” To me, passing is a thing that some marginalized people can do (for whatever reason, to be safe, to access resources, etc) because it’s inherently about one’s relationship to power. So as a cis queer woman, it’s easy for me to pass as…

Exactly! It’s far more powerful for me to be white and talk about race, to show white students that they do have a race, and it’s whiteness, and whether or not we talk about it, it functions in the world in ways you cannot see. Even in my intro comp classes, we talk about intersectionality beginning on day one & at…

I’ve begun typing replies like three times and they all amount to *GIANT SIGH*

I just feel really sad when I think about her students & the contradictory “lessons” this teaches them. I’m glad that she’s had a positive impact on some of them, and this whole fiasco doesn’t necessarily undo that for those specific students. But it’s far more effective to inhabit your actual self as a teacher. And…

Ima just continue my little rant because, yup, still fucking pissed.

I’m definitely interested to hear more or see if she tries to explain/defend in any coherent way. As a white feminist, I’m really fucking angry at her. But as a person, I’m already wondering at possible diagnoses (not in a “she must be mentally ill” way but in a “trying to understand motivations” way). My ex has a…

So I’m a white woman. I’m a lit scholar, and while I don’t focus exclusively on African-American or black lit, I do study race & ethnicity in early American fiction. I understand the complicated feelings that come with being a white person dedicated to doing this kind of work. But holy shit, I cannot fathom ever doing…

“Yup, that’s good. Mmmhmm, just like that. Juuuuuust like that. NO NOT LIKE THAT! Like how? You’re asking me!? IDK DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WERE DOING WHEN I SAID JUST LIKE THAT”

YAS. Also remember when the outlet wasn’t a separate line? You could get the exact same $58 crew neck lambswool sweater they sold in the catalogue (pre-online, pre-brick and mortar in my area) for $30, it’d just be in last year’s colors and patterns. I think every sweater I had in high school was from the J Crew…