The secret to being a proper adult is realizing, accepting, and embracing that there is no such thing as knowing how to be a proper adult. And there is no such thing as “arriving.” Like... I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately because I’m in my mid 30s and still feel like I’m 12 on the inside (and sometimes act…

The whole concept of literary worth was pretty much created by a bunch of privileged white male writers whose fragile egos just couldn’t handle that women’s fiction actually sold.

I don’t mean to cast blame on individual white gay men but rather on the co-optation of a richly diverse movement by the most normative amongst its ranks. I can understand how the sentence comes off, but I definitely don’t hate men. I could do without some of them, but it’s not because they’re men. ;) To be clear, I…

As someone who sees the ways academic feminists do a disservice to the very groups they claim to fight for almost on a daily basis, I think what’s going on in this story with the prof and Title IX is more an issue of generational feminisms coming to blows. I think Kipnis makes a couple good points but is mostly so…

Exactly. I’m getting lesbian-married in a few months, and I have really ambivalent feelings about it. On one hand, I’m thrilled to be marrying my partner and knowing that it’s actually legal does feel meaningful. But marriage, like all institutions, is inherently conservative and normativizing. In the past 15 years or…

Not everything is about black vs. white. Representation isn’t just skin color, and neither are political stances. Marilyn Mosby, for example, is a young woman of color who is not a Baltimore native, and yet as prosecutor, she’s the one (not the mayor, not the chief) who brought the indictments. She is representative…

Kipnis’ original article is infuriating. I’ve only taught at the college level for about seven years, and I’m nowhere near a tenured professorship, but ho-lee shit. To ignore the inherent power dynamics of the classroom is ethically irresponsible, and gaslighting victims is anti-feminist. She is the kind of white…

I’d argue that marriage equality and gay rights are advancing faster because some gay people are rich, white, neoliberal men. Plenty of others on the LGBTQIA spectrum do not see much material change in their everyday lives despite changes in social attitudes and some statutes. Marriage equality really only benefits…

Feel like she’s riffing on Bey’s Drunk in Love vid here. Like Bey’s the theme & Lil Mama’s the variation—in color & in her hood instead of b&w and isolated on a beach.

fyi, “lame” is ableist.

Between blood relations, in-laws, and chosen family, I’m auntie to approximately one bajillion kiddos. I always ask the child directly for a hug when saying hello or goodbye, and if they don’t feel like it—no biggie! (My current response “that’s cool; you do you.”) I was painfully shy growing up, and I hated the…

I am Joaquin.

beautiful happy love tears!

Aw I just got all nostalgic for the raver days of my youth! Also, not gonna lie, for the rolls.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh perfect little baby bottoms make my womb’s vacancy light switch on.

Try to realize that our stories are everywhere, on every campus, and we’re not all activists like Emma or unreliable sources like Jackie. Some of us are quiet about our stories even if we’re completely sure.

There’s nothing a woman likes better, in a conservative Republican’s imagination, than to sit around, dreaming up ever-more complex ways to get a late-term abortion.

This has been one of my goals since I saw Jon & Kate + Eight go buy a cow during the show’s first season. (Not even joking.) Very not-practical for my life right now, but def something I’d invest in when/if I have more stability.

Yup. Even though my mom was a SAHM for over 20 years, she also had part time jobs. She worked at Woolworth’s in the evenings. She babysat other kids whose moms worked daytime hours. And once the youngest was in school, she went back to college, became a nurse, and began working full time. It wasn’t until I was…

I’m the youngest of many & the only girl. My mom stayed at home for over 20 years then went back to school when I started kindergarten or first grade. She had a lot of self-doubt but studied hard, carried a 4.0, graduated, took her boards, and became an RN within three years. I cannot express the ways my own world…