Both men and women on our campus are more likely to be assaulted or raped at Greek-affiliated events. The data also suggests that frat brothers are 3 times more likely to commit sexual assault than non-frat men on campus. When asked about these data points in particular, the director of Fraternity & Sorority Life spun…

We went to antiques stores and secondhand coin & jewelry-type places. Mine's a pretty, delicate, 1920s white gold ring with art deco-ish filigree and a blue sapphire. I LOVE it. I barely feel it on my finger and it doesn't scream "engagement ring!" It doesn't get caught on things. It was only $180.

I agree with these guidelines. But I also think the situation could be made easier if people just didn't spend so much GD money on a tiny piece of jewelry. I don't think less of people who do spend a lot—I honestly can't even imagine what it would be like. I know some straight women who see the ring as a literal…

The UO has on its faculty a nationally renowned professor, J Freyd, who specializes in trauma and institutional betrayal. She was invited to DC as part of the President's initiative to address assault and rape on college campuses. She designed this study. Because the administration would rather spend a few hundred…

Whoa. I'm sorry, but are you implying that to respect women's boundaries is to treat them like children?

I fucking love this kind of break-up anthem. Danced to it just now and would totally want to dance any time I hear it, even if hiking with my dog. The video totally keeps the focus where it should be—on strong, sexy, not-taking-shit Mary, dropping her trench in the middle of the London street, because this is her show…

Beautiful article. After a baby-boom among close friends and family over the past few years, I've been thinking about this in re: my role as auntie to lots of people in the under-5 set. I was playing with my 14 month-old niece recently (only the 2nd time I met her. omg she's the best.), and I stopped myself from…

"Your daughter, Mo'Ne" Heck. Yes. So powerful to see a 13 y-o assert her place, as a black girl, within boy-centered spaces like baseball, and to claim her Americanness in a white supremacist USofA.

I went through a fairly short, super fun, and ultimately quite responsible drug phase in my early 20's (seriously, over a decade later, I'm both proud and embarrassed of how nerd-like I approached the whole thing). AFAIK, I wasn't roofied, but I did have a bad trip at a house party this one time. It was a small party,…

YAS.

While I'm no critic of contemporary pop culture, I am a lit teacher/scholar, and here's the thing. It is not the artist's job to be always willing and available to comment on criticism. We allow creative people to be variously involved in the public conversations that surround their works. Sure, Kaling's famous, and…

I openly admit to peeing in the shower, and this is the reason I cite. I have no real knowledge except I think Madonna mentioned it on Letterman in the 90s. So ya know, must be true.

Yeah, none of this negates her behavior, which was problematic throughout the whole season and only reached it's blatant worst at the very end. And when a young privileged white woman projects all of her insecurities onto the only woman of color left... Nope.

While I've side-eyed organized religion practically since birth, this makes me glad I was raised a repressed Catholic. At least I never had to listen to any sex-obsessed homilies while sitting in a church pew next to my family... Nor would my parents, being repressed Catholic boomers, ever speak quite so openly about…

We live in a great country, but the agenda for our elected officials is too often dictated by special interest groups.

They're so great! Big lap dogs :) My ex and I had one, and she was so awesome. She had so much personality: playful but not overly energetic; terrier smarts/curiosity; incredibly gentle and tolerant; and to this day the BEST SPOONING PARTNER I'VE EVER HAD. (don't tell my fiance or my current pup, both of whom are…

I'm having a hard time articulating why, but this whole idea of forgiveness as "good" and "healing" for victims/survivors bothers me. On a basic level, I agree that practicing forgiveness can work to unburden ourselves of anger that's holding us back, because we humans hurt other humans in myriad ways and often we…

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Generally I try to look presentable whenever I leave the house. I also wear leggings and hoodies quite often. These things are not mutually exclusive. Maybe living in the PacNW for the past five years has changed me, idk. Or maybe it's that I'm a poor grad student who will invariably be on a red-eye back east with…

LW3, I feel for you, and I am so sorry you're going through this. I ended up leaving my partner of 7 years (and once-upon-a-time best friend) about three years ago bc of her addiction. While it was more complicated than just the addiction, her use is what finally made me confront all the other stuff. But what I'm…