Lol, I choked on my tea a little when I read this comment.

I'm guessing this completely 10000% accurate and totally unbiased scholarly text, going from the reference to Monroe.

Ah, yes, that would be mansplaining. It is also, however, an example of trolling, which is a real dick move considering the article.

That's a good question.

Why does it have to be all or nothing? I feel like if you're interested enough in someone and value them enough to want to be more than friends, why would you not pursue a friendship with that person if dating them is off the table? I'm not talking about being obnoxious and using it as an excuse to try and get with…

EXACTLY. I read this comment before I posted mine, and it kind of floored me:

Thank you for explaining what the OP meant. It was a totally necessary addition and far more useful than the subsequent posts I exchanged with the OP TWO DAYS AGO where we reached a point of mutual understanding. Thanks for ignoring almost EVERY SINGLE OTHER THING I said and for harping on something that's already…

I see. Women only exist to you when they are giving you what you want. But, hey, it's cool because at least you're not harassing anyone. What a champion of the human race you are.

The power dynamic was so fucked up. With that, her age, and here previous abuse, there is absolutely no possibility of consent or, if it was even relevant, which it most certainly is NOT, any way to determine if she wanted it. Plus, rape is rape, whether it was "forcible" or not doesn't make it any less "legitimate".…

Yeah, I've actually heard it phrased another way, when people say they can't tell when someone is interested in them. The OP's starting point would be something like, "We are having a lovely conversation. She must be attracted to me," whereas a better starting point might be "We are having a lovely conversation". From…

I agree with everyone else. Cut off all contact. He has shown that he doesn't respect you starting with him saying he wanted you as a second choice. People are not exchangeable like that. He has violated your boundaries in so many frightening ways. You have tried to be fair and gave him more than he deserves. You do…

It reminds me of the response to this comment. Members of the dominant group always seem to have problems listening to how other groups experience oppression without immediately trying to silence them or prove them wrong.

This is placing women as objects, as prizes that are more valuable the harder they are to win, not people who have intrensic worth. If there is enjoyment to be had from working hard to attract another person, then what does it say when women are shut down and dismissed for trying to partake of this enjoyment, to be…

You know, this is all striking me as extremely ableist as well. You realize there are disabled people who depend on others, family or professionals, for care? Who are incapable of complete autonomy? Creeps/losers/sadsacks?Undatable, in your opinion?

I'm sorry for what you went through; it sounds indescribably horrific. I am so glad you had the courage to get out and the strength to ask for help. I think the support we need from our loved ones varies from time to time, and there's no shame in that.

Oh, fuck off with your imaginary statistics and your blatant misogynistic use of the word shrill.

You're lucky. I remember one time when I was visiting my father in England and was waiting for him in a pub, a guy asked me for my number and when I wouldn't give it to him, he grabbed the phone out of my hands and dialed his number so he would have mine. It was my stepmother's mobile and she didn't know how to use…

What in fuck are you talking about? People get sick, they lose their jobs, get divorced, go back to school, change their careers, have parents who get dementia, cancer, or lose their money and have to be cared for. There are a ton of reasons why people move home that don't make them losers/creeps/sadsacks. What the…

I think the thrill of the chase is way overrated. I get that it can be fun to try and seduce someone you are just getting to know, but should there be mystery about if your partner wants to have sex with you? I don't know, what your ex said sounds confusing and pointlessly shaming. I don't want to have to convince…

That's cool. The no-pressure relaxed date is the best kind. If more people approached it like you do, I would most likely date a lot more often.