Not enough time to do it all, but just enough time to read a few too many articles and worry oneself sick about it.

When this topic comes up between my friends and I, it’s agreed that women have a lot on their plate. We are still doing all the things our mothers and grandmothers did around the home, but add full time work onto that.

A lot of these comments aren’t talking into account the fact that having small children just IS stressful. It just is. Free-range parenting or Pinterest-worthy birthday parties or not.

We have three children under six. It is crazy.

You have time to work out? Aren’t you fancy. But seriously. You have time to work out?

For my own part:

OK, I get the point about “lifestyle childhoods” but even without that it’s so damn hard and I think it’s kind of a pot shot to criticize it. My husband and I both work full time, and my MIL watches our 2 year old while 6 year old goes to public school and after school care there. 6yo is enrolled in swimming one…

i don’t want to blame middle-class for their stress. i’m not trying to do that. but i do think people want to please other people wayyyy too much. and that’s a natural thing. if people were more honest with what they want, people might find marriage and kids and a big important job may not be it. it seems people aim…

Exactly. My parents’ jobs ended at 5pm. Mine is 24/7 and it’s fucking advertising - we’re not curing cancer.

Can we stop with the whole “ur doin it to urself” thing please? Sure, there are probably upwards of several hundred couples in Manhattan who are both employed, with young children, who have attempted to craft a Halloween costume out of mason jars and pallets, but that really isn’t life for most of us (admittedly…

Well, my family fits squarely in this category, so allow me to enlighten you; Hubs and I both work and have grade school kids. We have 10 days of vacation per year between the two of us (I have 5, he has 5), and in the 10 years we’ve been married, we’ve had one actual 5 day no work vacation. The rest of that time has…

Yes! Exactly. And I could ask him to do it but I get so annoyed with this. Why should I have to ask you to take the overflowing towels to the basement to wash? They’re right there! NOTICE THEM AND DO IT!

The fucking mental checklists is the thing that kills me in my marriage. I have this awesome husband who cleans the kitchen every night and often shoos me to bed while he stays up and takes care of the last bits of housework. But he is absolutely clueless when it comes to managing everything else. I have this anxiety…

Yup, instead of the Great American Dream, we have the Great American Disappointment. The economy has changed so much from much of the 20th century, and the 1% has been masterful in sucking up ever more of the value being generated. So people drive themselves insane trying to keep up.

Some weeks I just accept the mess and am too worn out to bother.

My husband and I can't keep our house clean and we don't even have children yet. I can't even imagine...

For me, it seemed that the biggest problem is what you said is problem #1 - many of our husbands think that doing a little bit of work is equal to doing half of the work. My own husband does way more than his dad did and I think he wants to be congratulated for that. But he still only does roughly 25% of what is…

It’s really very simple.