Seriously, how does the whole article never even mention “All Apologies,” which is an amazing song & one of the band’s crown jewels? Pfft.

I think he'd originally been a music teacher, then quit to care for their infant daughter. Wouldn't seem weird if it weren't in the context of two other families that could easily support themselves on one salary. Relatable!

Pretty sure this says she read a tweet while making pancakes, not sent one.

I could’ve fucking smacked him for talking that shit about Haynes, who seems like a nice kid who’s spoken very candidly about being pressured *not* to come out and about being in and out of the hospital for anxiety. Like, really, this is who you’re going to pick to yell at? And you’re going to pretend that coming out…

Women of previous generations were and are aware of gun violence, misogyny, and rape culture — the kids might sometimes go on a bit like they invented those concepts, but it ain’t so. I don’t know which two of them you think are “a product of hysteria” (classy, btw), but at any rate I assure you that they predate 2005…

It’s really hard to stand by and watch, but I don’t know what else to do. People don’t want your help until they do, and there doesn’t seem to be much you can do to speed it up. I was really struck by how sad the Amber Heard texts made me — seeing how clearly she recognized *a year and a half ago* that this was an…

It’s always projection.

Look, come on. Crime bad, yeah. Don’t kill people, people! It’s not an okay thing to do.

Well, you and I read the words quite differently. Sorry that you feel you’re being piled on, but you really are the one who took it to the level of “My reading of your comment convinces me that you’re a narcissistic piece of shit,” so I mean, I don’t understand why you think it’s everyone else who’s being hostile.…

The feelings were in the second graf. You might’ve wanted to read the whole thing before rushing off to post your diagnois. She literally did connect the cake to her feelings about this story and literally did not substitute “look at my cake” for commentary on the story. I honestly think you owe her an apology.

Man, that last paragraph sounds familiar. I feel you.

I think you raise a good point when it comes to the treatment of sex workers — how we treat male sex workers counts, too, and of course their well-being needs to be taken into account. However, I think the reason they don’t get talked about as much is that the existence of male prostitution is never going to rebound…

You are all up and down the thread insisting that this terminology is extremely precise and extremely important. Of course, the article “Prostitution Law Reform: Defining Terms” from the Prostitutes’ Education Network says:

Or it could just be a rhetorical way of saying, “I am struck by the vast and terrifying gap between the mundanities of daily life and the sheer horror of this story. Let me illustrate to you how strange it feels to know that while most of us spend most of our time saying, Hey, today’s the day I gotta make that cake…

I know, right? It sounds like it should be a step or two up from “shenanigans,” but NOOOOPE.

He can speak as his lawyer. He can say “My client is definitely not guilty, and my team will prove to you how it came to be that he was found barricaded into his apartment with his girlfriend’s dead body, which admittedly looks pretty bad, but when all the facts come out, less bad.”

I think you meant “illegal” where you used “legal” there, and I also don’t think you were tracking what I said very carefully at all. I *know* no one is saying minors should engage in sex work. That was my literal and entire point — that no one would argue that, including the “sex work is just work like any other…

“It’s very rare that someone is involved in a homicide case with someone they just had a baby with.”

Right, but that doesn’t bear at all on my primary point, which is that the cultural view we take toward sex work doesn’t *only* affect sex workers, but affects the entire way we view sex, and so long as women are perceived as the sex class, the entire way we view women. That’s the stance Carter is being mocked for,…

I realize many of them have been. They’re where I did learn this stuff — never claimed to be making it all up myself! I was addressing this particular piece, which I think really errs on the all-too-common side of “the sex part of sex work means nothing, and only stupid old people think that how we treat sex work…