I’ve noticed that my Doctors office has begun doing this recently(no matter what type of appt. it is). The first time the nurse asked me “Do you have a partner at home? Do you feel safe? Do you need help?”, I was taken aback, but now I feel grateful.

It is becoming more common in all doctor situations. I cut myself badly s couple years ago trying to split a bagel. I was light headed and wanted my partner to also hear what the Doc had to say. But first they had to take me aside, and make sure he wasn’t somehow responsible.

It’s good that that’s become part of the standard patient questions at OBGYNs. I think it’s becoming the norm at all doctor’s appointments. I know my university health center asks me every time I go in there whether I’m safe in my home. I live alone and always laugh at that question because I do think it’s highly…

There is a recognizable pattern of women saying something like “I’m tired of men cat-calling me” and then men, instead of saying, “That sucks. I’m going to intervene when I see it.” go “NOT ALL MEN DO THAT!”

Most male rape victims are raped by men.

Society is not some strange construct imposed on us all that completely goes against our innate natures. Societal norms generally mimic biological imperatives, with some rare exceptions.

Violence is inherent to humans, but in our patriarchal society, men’s violence poses a specific threat to women.

That’s cool. We disagree. I have also read Fine’s book, but I can’t buy into the fact that it is gender than makes men and women different. I wholeheartedly believe that gender is a social construct, but it just does not account for male violence, a constant, across all places where ‘gender’ is enforced.

I once said that domestic violence for men is “worse in a different way” for men because they feel they can’t report, during a conversation with my husband. He thought for a second and responded that while many men experience (terrible) abuse at the hands of female partners —and that he had in the past—it simply…

I disagree with you. Men are innately different from women, from a biological standpoint. In most mammals, males are larger, more aggressive, more territorial. Deer, chimps, gorillas, etc. I could name a lot more examples if I gave it thought.

Your OB sounds amazing and congratulations to you and your partner! It’s heartbreaking, but it’s encouraging that the medical community is engaging with patients on issues that are unfortunately common.

Yeah I am. If you control for all the non-biological things in the world (culture, country, religion, time) women are less violent. This is a fact.

At every single one of my prenatal appointments they asked me if I was safe in my home. I am, but it broke my heart that they needed to ask that. But at the same time I was glad they did.

Well... Yeeeesss, but I wouldn’t put it quite like that. It’s not necessarily men themselves who present the danger so much as it’s the influence of toxic masculinity, I’d say. Men aren’t the enemy; the Patriarchy is.

Sometimes kids have an easier time talking to someone who isn’t their parent. I’ve already given my phone number to all of my kid’s friends that if they ever get into a bad/stupid/drunk driver situation, they can call me no questions asked, and I will drive them home. I’d rather be woken up at 2am then attend a…

The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker should be required reading for every woman, sometime in their teens. He goes over all the warning signs and give real world examples and steps. My daughter was dealing with a persistent, stalking online “friend” and she’s handled it perfectly because of the tips I gave her from the…

Thank you for doing that for her. My high school boyfriends were both abusive, and the emotional abuse at least was pretty obvious. My mother did nothing but encourage me to stay with them because she wanted me to have a boyfriend, I guess? She never impressed upon me that I should have been treated with respect.

Amen to that. Dating violence and the That’s not Love campaign need to be taught in schools over this Stranger Danger crap. The boogeyman (or woman) is usually known to you and not a stranger. Teaching kids what to look out for and when to run for the hills is so important.

And what’s not in the report but is a commonly known fact in sociology and criminology circles is that the #1 cause of death for pregnant women is homicide.

We already knew this but thanks CDC.