All of this. Same here.

I don’t mind when older relatives leave out that I actually hyphenated. But I get absolutely livid when I get mail (especially mail JUST TO ME!) addressed to Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast. I didn’t take his first name! I know people struggle to spell my first name but I’d rather it be missppelled than someone else’s name!

Amazing how that works, isn’t it?

Yeah, it’s funny how when a man gives his last name to a son, that name stays awesome, but when he gives it to a daughter, that same name turns into a too-long unpronounceable unwieldy ball of ick with bad memories attached that can’t be tossed away fast enough. Such a coincidence!

I kept my name & am glad I did. My kids have my husband’s name. But I will tell you that even though is is 2015 not 1955, I get left off the class emails almost every year and people always seem confused about it (granted, I live in a pretty conservative area of the country).

It mostly bothers me because it’s a really silly argument. If it was really about having an ugly last name, or not liking your father, or just wanting to have one family name, you’d see men taking women’s names as often as the other way around, because just as many men have ugly last names and don’t like their…

This is exactly why I changed my name, as well. My in-laws are the only family I have.

I have an aunt who was married 5x by the age of 50, and changed her name EACH TIME, then bitterly lamenting the hassle of changing it constantly. She’s also been investigated for identity theft, because of the frequency of it all. LOLZ

I respect people’s right to make their own decision, but it bewilders me when people are willing to get rid of their own name because they have negative feelings about family members who share the name. I don’t see why the fact that it is your name and always was your name isn’t enough. Also, as someone who is married…

Kept my name. Older relatives still address invitations with my husband’s last name but I truly don’t care. It’s so cute and quaint to receive hand-written notes.

same! my friend recently said to me “it will be confusing for everyone if I don’t have the same last name as my kids.” I was like “were you confused when you met my mom? who has a different last name than me?”

I kept mine. I had assumed that most of the pushback I got would be from older relatives, but surprisingly they have been respectful of my decision. I have, however, experienced a lot of name-change related passive-aggression from my peers, specifically from friends of my husband’s who are more conservative than my…

She’s speaking from personal experience. We all cracked up super hard when she dropped that line.

OMG seriously? That’s awesome/horrible, depending on how drunk she was and what your relationship is like.

I’m getting married next weekend and I’m definitely not changing my name. I’ve published articles and built up an online presence under my name, although truthfully it’s more because I’m uncomfortable with the symbolism behind the act.

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she’s expecting you to divorce her son? o_o

I don’t know. Most people that I know (Vet) have kept their maiden names professionally or were married when we graduated/ got licensed. I’d imagine you’d have to fax documents, pay fees, etc. to get your license changed. I know one person who is called Dr. MaidenName professionally, but socially is Mrs. HisLastname.…

Yeah, you’d think something such a huge percentage of the population has to do would be easy, but noooo. Biggest pain in the ass, and took years to really get everything fully done. My guess is that society doesn’t care about making it easier because women do it. If men changed their names as regularly they would…

“Good! Don’t take his name. By the 3rd or 4th wedding it’s just a hassle.”

Sometimes its not about being religious or feminism, its about all the hassle paperwork required to change your name on .every.single.FREAKING.DOCUMENT