All the love to you. I’ve spilled my guts a few times on this site- long story short in the early ‘90s Mr Mars and I became what were called at the time “hope to die” heroin addicts. We lost everything (except each other) and survived a couple bad years on the streets. The one thing that finally got us clean was a…

I love reading posts like this. When I left an abusive (physical and emotional) marriage in 1977, there was so very little support for women back then. I couldn’t get a loan from my bank on my own. I couldn’t get anything that even resembled a credit card on my own. No financial independence available.

Hi everyone! It’s been a while since I updated everyone. Several months ago I started posting about my abusive marriage and really appreciated everyone’s support as I prepared to leave. Now I am here to update everyone that I have been gone a little over 3 months. I am in my dream apartment. It might not be much to…

The Code 45* crew is pretty tired today, having been up all night keeping an eye on the Alabama election ballots – just in case Roy Moore’s god actually did show up in the dead of night to fiddle the numbers. But, come the dawn, nothing had changed! Apparently, contrary to Moore’s non-concession speech, we didn’t…

Is taking your lunch to work an option? It might reduce the stress of having to leave the building for lunch while you search for another job.

It’s not privileged of you - it’s being smart and aware of your personal safety which IS important. Your lifestyle doesn’t have to match anyones, including your parents. Do NOT feel guilty about your concerns. They are valid and your gut is saying GET OUT. Listen to your gut. Being a little farther from family is…

Safety isn’t a privilege (or shouldn’t be, anyway). You’re talking about serious stuff here. Shootings, murders, burglaries, and whatever else are definitely a big deal even if your parents disagree. I’d say get out if you can.

If you a have the ability to work in a safe area and get paid the same or better, then you should start applying. Your parents didn’t work hard so you can witness drug deals while in traffic. Apply, Interview and then make the decision.

I’ve noticed in my work as a victim advocate that some people who survived are prone at times to developing a cold and calloused attitude to those who they feel aren’t strong enough. It’s an attitude of, “I made it, I’m doing what I need to do to survive, so why can’t you.” I see the same in some people who made it…

Or, maybe, the way she gets through every day is by telling herself that those past assaults happened because she did X,Y,Z and as long as she never makes those mistakes again she’ll be OK.

Look, some women can be the most ardent supporters of an oppressive patriarchal system. Pam has survived in spite of/by virtue of her physical attributes all her life and can’t see the forest for the trees.

As a bisexual, atheist, and socialist, I read the title of this article and thought ‘well, he’s not wrong.’ I am indeed actively working towards his ruin.

I grew up in this kind of church. Trust me when I say this bananas old cracker makes total sense in that world. Some things you have to accept first:

Today’s Code 45* reveals the wistful musings of the coppery boy-king as he ponders returning to both the drudgery of work and to the sight and sounds of all the many, many people who really, really fucking hate him. It all seems so unbearable and nasty after being so richly cocooned in the bestest, funnest trip ever.…

Office holiday parties aren’t really parties. They are a test to see who can socialize with alcohol without embarrassing themselves. This is an important skill to have in many professions.

Mandatory fun is one of the pains of childhood. I refuse to participate as an adult. (small) part of the reason I freelance. When I was a full-time, salaried employee I would have preferred the money from the party go to something more useful, like a small boost to everyone’s bonus or small hourly wage for the unpaid…

Any guy scared enough to be adopting the Mike Pence rule is a guy who needs to adopt the Mike Pence rule. Let them tell on themselves.

If by “better than sex” they are saying that this mascara is better than sex at defining and volumizing your eyelashes, then I’d say that must be true.

(I do realize that they’re not actually saying this)

I’ve been off the sauce for almost 2 weeks & I’m feeling really good so far. Just wanted to say that if any of my fellow jezzies need some motivation to quit drinking, I definitely recommend the stopdrinking subreddit. Great community there & lots of the stories really hit home for me.

Ahaha I love Pumpkin!!