It is not crazy, I understand the feeling. I happen to know a nice guy who loves dogs and has a big house with rooms he rents, so it would be mutually beneficial. He has experience with fragility, if you come to need this option.

Also think I have a guy in Essex MD who might have a room to spare.

I can put a word out that there is a very short term renter looking for a space, and get back to you. I -might- know a doggy daycare owner.

I am so sorry you're going through this. Good for you for having an agreement in place about the house and the down payment. A lot of people don't think about that when making such a large investment. Please go speak with an attorney. They can help you identify local resources and explore options.

no, no, No get a lawyer, however you can, do NOT let this jerk get your portion of the payment and any subsequent equity. I know it's easier said than done, but look for local legal clinics, most bar associations hold them. Look into your state consumer protection. Look to abuse shelters, they often have lawyers. …

I've been there and I know how much of a hold the financial thing can have over decisions. You delay because you don't see a way out because of the money. All the while you know something is going to happen again but you're trying to buy time so you can get out without losing everything. And it's easier said than done…

Hey, I saw your comment cross-posted to GT and I was wondering, what region are you in? I would be happy to help you personally if you are in the American Southwest. You CAN get away. Stay strong.

Hello Houzzgrrl. I am sorry that you are in an abusive relationship. Some people have replied to the GT thread. What area are you in? I am willing to do research on shelters if you want. Do you have any money? You could look at staying in a long term motel, some take pets. There are also campgrounds which are cheap…

I wish i had a good answer for you. Try legal aid. http://www.legal-aid.org/en/home.aspx They might be able to at least help you figure out what you need to do as far as papers to file etc. I know finding a pro bono lawyer can be tough. Good luck!!

Take half now, leave, and sue him for the rest? Just don't say anything implying you're giving up your right to the other half of the money.

Also, there is the Safe Haven network, specifically to help house pets for people just like you need. https://awionline.org/content/safe-h…

Are you sure the domestic abuse shelters near you don't take pets? I've heard that some of them are starting to change their rules on that. Or maybe it'd be worth driving to one that does, even if it's far away?

Oh, man. I hope the groupthinkers or other jezzies have solid suggestions. I'd say talk to a lawyer first, but if you need cash to get out, taking your 25k might be an option to look at. Still, based on the experience of my family member, people like this tend to flat out not cooperate.

BIG HUGS. I'm sorry you have to do this, and it's so hard. What part of the country are you located? Could you use help researching a local shelter or rescue group that might have a temporary foster home? I happen to know a lot of dog lovers and several cat lovers who understand your position. If I am in driving…

Done! And seriously - you can do this. There will be an end! Stay safe. I'm so sorry.

Agree that selling your car is probably not a great idea. Any friends who would keep your dogs for a while until you get settled?

Also, would you like me to share this to Groupthink? I know some frequenters over there have experience with divorce and abusive partners and all that.

I am so sorry you're going through this. I really hope you get the resources you need soon - I don't have any expertise to offer. But you can do this. You will feel amazing and I'm happy to hear that you recognize the situation for what it is. That's a tough step - so be proud of yourself for it. Now be proud that you…

Glad you're getting out, and glad you are thinking of talking to a lawyer. Seems to me you would be entitled to your down payment plus a share of the equity. The laws probably vary by state. Don't let him bully you.

No problem and I am glad to help.