Yup. If I say, "Hon, could you please help with the dishes when you have time tonight before bed?" it goes over much better than if I say, "God, why can't you ever do the dishes when they're dirty?!" I can't imagine why >.>

I like this advice. My partner doesn't express his feelings well. He doesn't always know what words to assign to his emotions, so it's difficult to talk to him when I keep asking him, "What's wrong?" or, "How are you feeling?" Inviting him to check in with some feelings once in a while will give him the chance to try…

I try and use the ship-to-store option if they have one, and if it is free. Usually it is free if they have that shipping option.

I'm sure I'm an a-hole for saying this, but I don't really care. If I bought something online, it was probably because it was not available in the store, or was out of stock. I would rather have purchased it at the store than waiting X days for it to be delivered. Also, if they don't offer free ship-to-store, I don't…

Usually (with exception, of course) both sides of an argument have something to apologize for. Typically, tone and delivery. Apologizing for tone and delivery can go a long way. Even if you stand by the concept you were trying to deliver, there is a good way and a bad way to get that concept across.

Many dealerships have open guest Wi-Fi available in their service department's waiting area. Comes in handy if you're going to be there for a while.

I like the new vegetable-noodle fad that's going on right now. So far I've only done zucchini noodles with spinach or basil pesto, but I'll be trying butternut squash with tomato pesto and eggplant with pasta sauce sometime soon.

Huh. I'll have to speak to someone if/when it comes time, then. I'm in NY too. It doesn't seem "fair" that just because we get a joint account his debt could be mine too. It's not like I helped acquire the debt, and the debt wasn't borrowed against the joint account. Plus, what if we already have a joint checking…

On days when I work from home, I'm starved for human contact by the time boyfriend gets home. All he wants to do is relax for a while and not be around someone who wants to talk his ear off, and all I want to do is talk to another person.

I can understand where you're coming from. My boyfriend's gross take-home is more than my gross, but after he pays his car payment and makes payments on his loan and credit card debt, my net take-home is actually more than his net. Before he had paid things down substantially, I had to shoulder the brunt of our shared…

In my opinion, if you are married, it should be shared responsibility to fix the house and the car. I would think he would help with car payments too. I don't think there's any, like, legal thing that says he has to help you with the car payments, since you financed on your own before marriage, but I would think…

That's one thing I've always wondered about. If/when I legally marry my boyfriend, is his debt now our debt, or is it still his debt? I would think since it was accrued prior to marriage it would still be his debt...

Those two examples are things you'd be paying for on your own anyway, even if you weren't with him / he wasn't living with you. I would suggest asking him to split gas purchases with you if he's heavily benefiting from use of the car. You can't expect him to make payments on your car; what if you broke up? Does how…

It's already back up to $19.19; looks like the deal didn't last long.

It's already back up to $19.19; looks like the deal didn't last long.

Unprofessional, perhaps, only if you are looking for a job with current job's resources (computer, phone, etc.) while on the clock at your current job and sneakily taking time off (saying, "Oh, I have a doctor's appointment, be back later.") to go on interviews. I don't see it as unprofessional if one works at an…

I see it as, it's not his fault you're in debt. He shouldn't be punished for not having debt and being able to have some discretionary funds. At the same time, you're supposed to be partners. You're supposed to work together to make life easier for each other and be supportive.

My boyfriend of three years and I live together. Right now, we maintain separate accounts. I sort of act as the accountant in the relationship - we have agreed on what bills we split and how to split them, and I remind him when they are due, and he gives me his share, and I pay the bill. We do have a joint…

I don't understand. You were moving around within the organization; how does that constitute you abandoning ship? Your "loyalty" to the company itself wasn't in question, just your position within the company.

I still think it would be better to leave out the "I'm thinking about leaving because" statements and simply say, "There are some concerns I'd like to discuss so that I can continue providing you with the best work possible." If they won't address your concerns without you mentioning you want to leave, I wouldn't want…

I think the better advice would be to request a review or a meeting to discuss some concerns, rather than inform them you're thinking of leaving. During the review, bring up your gripes and iron them out at that time. Spin it in a way that says you have some concerns that you'd like to address to make your working…