this is not an abstract concern. Mount Holyoke cancelled a performance of the Vagina Monolgues because the play is not inclusive of trans people. This concerns me. The play isn’t making a statement about women, or that “you must have a vagina to be a woman”.

Some people are just too explosive together. It’s like bad alchemy, and it makes for non-stop drama, and often violence. I’ve seen it with other lesbian couples, straight couples and gay couples too; two people who are perfectly capable of controlling their impulses separately, but can’t help lighting each other’s…

If they accept anyone who identifies as a woman, regardless of sex, it only makes sense that they would reject anyone who identifies as a man.

yeah, and they serve a good purpose.

I have a bunch of friends who are cis women, and I’m friends with quite a few other trans women too. For me personally, unless I’m really emotionally frazzled or having some severe bodily/gender dysphoria on a given day, I find it comforting and meaningful - like ondiac said in their post - to be around other women…

To be honest, she was just bad at having sex. I don’t think she had a ton of experience and she just wasn’t very good at it. I will say though, and maybe I was lucky in this instance, but it really wasn’t awkward. We were all drinking a bit, having a fun night overall and everybody was into it. So at least in my eyes,…

if she really seems noncommittal or disinterested,don’t push it. Being on the receiving end of that kind of pressure feels really gross.

Yes, it’s completely fucked up. You are telling a child in the midst of a tough time of life, puberty, that her body does not belong to herself. I can’t think of a more damaging and risky message to send a young woman.

Because you are drastically altering their appearance against their wishes, and badly. And then forcing that child to go out into public like that. So you are publicly shaming her even without putting it out on YouTube.

I don’t agree there’s really any situation where cutting a 13 year old girl’s hair against her will is reasonable. That’s a major violation of someone’s bodily integrity.

Unless dad is a barber, no, he has no reason to touch her hair. She’s 13, that’s old enough for a child to decide their own hairstyle. This was done to abuse and humiliate her, even before he uploaded it to youtube. I’m glad there’s attention on him now and I hope he gets punished by our judicial system. He won’t…

You need to take a walk, maybe go for a soda, think about what you’ve said.

Agreed. It may seem superficial, but my hair is a part of me, and not letting me be in control of my own body feels... dark. I feel really icked out by hair-cutting as punishment.

Please describe scenarios (other than chewing gum in hair, which this obviously wasn’t) where drastically chopping off the kid’s hair in a garage might have been “perfectly reasonable”. Really, I’m fascinated to hear.

Restrictions, early curfews, loss of other privileges- nah, those things aren’t swaggeringly fun for me to film myself doing to my child.

I just read through the comments section of the Tacoma Stories link and someone fairly close to the situation said that her father had threatened to put her up for adoption. If this is true, coupled with the hair cutting off incident, it paints a picture of an abuser who should be in jail.

Chopping off her hair. What kind of fucking medieval punishment is this? That’s what they did to women who slept with Germans during the French occupation. Getting drunk or whatever doesn’t warrant this hateful treatment. This is horrid.

Or how betrayed she would feel that her own father, a person who is supposed to love and protect her, would become a bully too? She must have felt like absolutely no one would support and protect her. How terribly sad.

But maybe they are? I weigh 150 and I’m between a 4 and a 6 in most US brands. Vanity sizing, yo.

Have a berry. You can cut it up for your cereal.