Nope, when you wrote “and that’s how I met my husband” you put that causal relationship right in there.

No, it’s bullshit. Meeting someone is pure chance, whether you do the other stuff or not.

This. I hate this bullshit advice that “just being OK with yourself” and “doing your own thing” will pay off with a relationship. Loads of people already do that, and are still single. Loads of people do none of that, can barely function on their own, yet find someone who will take them on.

Or you could have carried on the same and met your husband anyway. Or not. Meeting him was pure chance - it had nothing to do with the other stuff.

And that, not some fairy-tale, is how I met my partner,

I moved to a country with social welfare so I could continue to do those things with relative security as a single person.

Yeah, and it’d be nice if some of these married people were more respectful of single women since we make our own way, on lower incomes, no less.

That’s some Just World fallacy you’ve got going there.

women pay for the privilege of being in a serious romantic relationship by taking on multiple full-time jobs