*Raises hand.* Once a drunk stranger on the train put his hands all over my face and then showed me the gun in his sweatshirt when I didn't react well.

The "listening" part of being an ally isn't just hearing what someone else is saying, you know. It's acknowledging that how they experience the world is equally as legitimate as what you experience. There are many things that do not happen to you or color your experience because you're a man. That doesn't mean…

You feel that Simon shirking her culpability in killing a child by filing a punitive lawsuit against the victim's family so that they'll drop their case against her doesn't merit vilification? How much more damage does she have to do to this family, whether through utter irresponsibility and negligence or bald-faced,…

"Like it or not, chidoggy is correct; victims are not the only people who get to weigh in on appropriate punishments for a crime. Society in general makes the decision. Slightly more weight may be given to the victim's opinion, but the moderating effect of non-victims opinions are also necessary. Otherwise the…

I'm sorry, what? What does that last quote of mine say about who can or can't be a rape victim? Because that quote isn't talking about rape victims. I'm talking about you and other men like you: "I'm a man, and just because I haven't been raped doesn't mean I can't and shouldn't have a voice or say."

Oh gosh. That quote you pulled says absolutely nothing about what I think about the demographic makeup of victims. I'm gonna stick to my guns and say that the people who have no first-hand knowledge or experience with rape are predominantly men.

Boy, I am clearly not the person with comprehension problems.

Ooooh, you got me. When I said "rape survivors" I was clearly saying "female rape survivors."

"...can we move past this 'only people who have been raped should be able to tell you how to punish and/or deal with a rapist'?"

Rape isn't just a private matter though. Silence on issues like this, particularly with public figures like Lueke, is what so many people call "rape culture." When an athlete in the public eye commits rape and the MLB allows him to continue his employment as a public figure, they're basically sending the message…

You're so right! We should stop letting all of these rape survivors consult on the matter, because they are clearly drowning out the opinions of men who have no first-hand knowledge or experience with it.

I'm a little baffled by the legions of commenters and bloggers on the Gawker sites that find it so very unbelievable that a character could rape someone he claims to love. "But it makes no sense for his character arc!" seems more of an objection to the fact that the writers led you to genuinely like a character who…