That is a great story (mom death aside, of course) and I appreciate you sharing it with me!

I honestly find the idea of a courtesy period strange. I think a period between relationships is a good idea because it gives you time to figure out what lessons can be learned, do whatever healing needs to be done, etc. But I don’t think anyone owes their ex a period of celibacy. And I would be sort of weirded out if…

Yeah, the vast majority of people under 30 are going to be pretty shocked once they hit 40 and realize life isn’t over yet.

I agree! I’m exceptionally healthy (knock on wood) and all the women in my family have lived very long lives. Any one of us could get hit by a bus tomorrow.

Congratulations! And yeah, I agree completely. My husband just mentioned the other day that he thought that we’ll be better parents now than 10 years ago for all sorts of reasons. I’m excited about it, frankly!

Well, the person that told me that was in her early 20s. So I figure I’m already nearly dead to her mind.

Oh, ok thanks for that!

Well, be that as it may, this makes me feel soo much better about considering IVF at nearly 40. Someone told me last month that I “could be dead” when the kid graduates HS.

“The female bod” didn't exactly make this one happen by itself. I hope everyone comes out of this reasonably healthy and well. Feminism shouldn't mean we have to applaud medically risky choices.

I wouldn’t have been passive, only because I was being bullied myself for being gay. The few friends I did have were the “freaks” and “weirdos”. Oddly enough, while I could stand up for them, I never could stand up for myself.

Why would she keep Letourneau as part of her name anymore?

“I can still remember that day in class when I saw you picking your nose and eating it — and I said, ‘Some day, I’m going to marry that booger eater.’”

You should put that on your OKC profile.

Back then she was super defiant (in the most feminine way possible, - not angry, not passive aggressive, but in a pleading girly voice with core of pure stubbornness) that she was absolutely not doing anything wrong with Vilau and they were in love and all that. I guess it’s a part of her identity to the extent that…

I feel horrible that I laughed at that.

I’ve started to write this comment several times but basically, my very visceral response just boils down to:

She didn’t have an affair ABC. She raped her student and she was raping him BEFORE his 13th birthday. He was 11 when it started. In her 6th grade class. Only in America would a white woman rapist be treated like some kind of victim who is in a legitimate relationship. Disgusting.

This makes me laugh... Because several years ago... Maybe 2005 or 2006??? I was at some terrible show here in Seattle and some guy comes up and starts creeping on me in the absolute grossest way.... Way too close, trying to touch me, spewing horrifically awful lines... Just incredibly, incredibly creepy and one of…

90 days. For rape. How awesome.

Oh. This story.

I am, and always have been, a total sucker for this story.

She seems like a total nutjob. I’m roughly 33. I work (not as a teacher) with 13-17 year teens on a pretty regular basis, almost all of them male. And every single one of them is so clearly a child, I can’t imagine what somebody my age would…