He is DANGEROUS. People thinking these people are a charming PG Wodehouse / Mitford character are the cause of the dangerous influcence of BoJo and JRM alike. Also why the Tories feel the need to pander to the right of their party. DANGEROUS.

The child has not guilt in this. I despise this “guilt of our fathers” narrative.

I was NOT a fan. So contrived.

He is not a “cretin” - that implies he is not aware of what he does. He is a creep and predator.

Thank you. I am hoping there’s a way back as our breakup was on the back of two bust-ups on my end. Your tips are helpful, you are most kind!

How helpful! How did you recognise a legitimate reaction from one that came from a bad pattern? I feel terribly guilty about my lashing out and the outsized reactions I had but I also do wonder if at time the reaction was justified.. that this make sense? Thank you!

How did you do it? I mean the letting yourself be vulnerable? I have sabotaged my last relationship (there were other reasons but I definitely contributed) because feeling vulnerable makes me lash out viciously.. HELP - we broke up yesterday morning and I am trying wrap my head around it.

I think it is because these are not the 1% but the 2-15%, who are still much better off than most. In my personal experience, the 1% don’t mix with anybody else, as they all go to private residential schools like I have.

A big hug to you. I broke up with my boyfriend today and feel very raw so I can sympathise even though a marriage is even worse.

Very unpopular opinion: I struggle with Lindy West. She’s smart and sharp but I find her to be quite self-indulgent and too focussed on convincing people that it isn’t her fault that she is fat. Even as an overweight person I find it grating. That plane article was just THE WORST.

Lena Dunham is surrounded by yes people and is just not as smart as she thinks, thus dangerous in her influence. THAT was also terrible - effectively bullying.

Nope. I am 35 and live in NYC and babies have come up on every first date I have been on for the last 3 years before I met my current partner (who also brought babies up).

Indeed! And I’m not even an actress! Good luck with everything

This were my thoughts exactly!!! Why? Has he gotten to her? I hope she won’t take him back, he was a nightmare. Also - another one of those abusers hiding in plain sight - she had to take time off work (on TV!!) because he was beating her.

I have recently realised that I am always those 15-20 pounds over my ideal weight because I got so much unwanted sexual attention when I was very young... good luck, I will tune into all movies with old and fat actresses!

It has in the UK...

I think for me a lot comes from my background and the way my parents argued (they both died when I was in my early twenties). I come from quite a privileged background and was brought up with the idea that talking about feelings is distasteful and with parents that hated each other where one would scream and the other…

Shoeless house all the way! I have guest slippers.

Thank you! That is very kind and helpful. Yes, exactly. My issue is also that I only express my feelings when I am very distressed and do it in a very aggressive way - basically putting me in the wrong. I am really working on myself and dating someone who knows me well makes it easier both because he knows me well and…

THIS IS A THING THAT EXIST?? Mine is manual...