It's cool dude, I'm an Editor, we're supposed to be really fucking good at this shit. Most of us aren't but, eh, you know, nobody's perfect. Anyway, it is important to have good reading comprehension because of situations exactly like your original comment.

One last post and then I've got to go to work - coupla things: 1. healthy people seek help, whatever got you to therapy, honor it - there are less healthy choices, I'm glad you chose this one 2. SIA and ACA have been good for me, I hope they can be good for you - http://www.siawso.org/ and http://www.adultchildren.org/

Just here to say I don't really understand why you're getting piled on, and I appreciate you sharing your perspective. There's really no "right" way to react to a piece like this, particularly if you are a victim of sexual abuse yourself. I think maybe some are reading your first post as being kind of dismissively…

but that's kind of the point of internet comments. We aren't, generally speaking, here to just say "that was a great article!" though we frequently do. This is a community of people that I like to consider a safe space, and I think it's totally expected that someone would comment on an article like this about how it…

You seem to have been snagged by the fact that there is no tone or inflection in writing like there is in speech. That sucks. Sorry dude.

I'm sure the author can take care of herself - please note that by 'shushing' hellagrossedoutwtfman, you are perpetuating a culture of secrecy - in this particular case, not allowing a victim to express her feelings and discomfort - and since most of what we communicate is projection, the question begs .... why are…

I'm really sorry for what happened. I think what happened to both you and the author and many other commenters are completely indefensible and inexcusable. I'm so sorry for how shitty and unsupportive mainstream feminism tends to be toward victims of abuse, especially when we can't recover or are not perfect victims…

"Your desire to share how uncomfortable you are with someone else' experience serves what purpose, exactly?"

Aw, wee lamb. It's okay. You're right, this is really OMGSOHELLAGROSSINGMEOUTTOOWTFMAN.

Wow dude.

Obviously, hellagrossedoutwtfman was very troubled both by his/her own reaction as well as the story. In the same way we truly support (and we do) Ms. Chenier, I think we might open ourselves to the complexities that this story may induce in all people: especially those who have been traumatised sexually. There is no…

Or perhaps you could sympathise, rudebarb? The way I see it both the author and hellagrossedoutwtfman are dealing with severe trauma of the kind that most of us are mercifully spared. Who are we to say that whichever way they choose to handle it is wrong? Someone who states that s/he was raped as a child for ten years…

we have similar history (10+ years of creepy stepfather) and yes, this shit makes me vomit too - but at the same time, it makes me feel a little less gross or abnormal that sometimes I have dreams about WANTING to have sex with him - I've even had dreams where I HAVE had sex with him - many factors create 'wonky…

"genetic sexual attraction is normal" —- please don't say stuff like this. You follow this up a sentence or two later saying that you were an abuse victim. This is NOT normal, do NOT attempt to normalize your experience. This may be COMMON, but DON'T say it's normal. It is not ok.

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