heartsandkittens
heartsandkittens
heartsandkittens

"Everyone grows up, and everyone moves on, and everybody gets an equal chance at the crapshoot of romance."

Except, you know, for those of us who don't. Because it turns out that what "There isn't a consensus about who is attractive and who isn't" actually means is, "Everyone likes something different, just as long as

Eh, an apple shape has a better chance of pulling off a crop top than those of us who have lost weight — most of my "fashion choices" are centred on trying to disguise the hanging rolls of shriveled skin and fat that weight loss leaves behind. :-(

I'd like to see this map as an overlay on one of the ethnic/racial composition of the US. Because what I suspect it's actually primarily measuring is the fact that body types are primarily inherited. (We know that by far the biggest contributor to adults' body weights is genetics.)

Also: "Obesity rates have been on the

They're almost identical to North American ads for weight-loss products/foods/surgery, actually. Those ones where they depend on poor photography in 'before' photos, professional styling in 'after' photos, and decades of culturally reinforced fatphobia in order to create the impression that people are happier/more

I find it weird that none of these articles ever seem to talk about the non-prescription diaphragm, Caya. Combine it with Fertility Awareness or condoms, and you have excellent protection. The gel used with it is also all-natural, and, most importantly, this method requires no interaction with doctors or other medical

It exposes the falsehood of fat-hater/concern-troll claims that they "just care about fat people's health." It's really about offending their sense of aesthetics and challenging them with the right of bodies to exist in public if those bodies don't arouse them sexually.

And your dismissal of the accounts of people who are marginalized and oppressed as imagined slights, distortions, and "hurt feelings" (seriously, WTF?) tells me a lot about you. You think you're making a clever observation, but you're really just doing what generations of privileged people have done to those on the

"Take one class about sourcing and how these numbers are produced and you won't either."

Cute. But I *teach* those classes. And I also *believe marginalized people's experiences when they describe them.* It's radical, I know — hits you right in the unearned privilege.(And do try to remember than not everyone else on

"Every single fat person? In every single day is repeatedly shamed from strangers, friends and family alike?"

My doctor is actually well known for these IV treatments (which I've never tried).
Fortunately for me, he's also amazing at curing regular people of regular-people health problems.

"I've been heavy, too, and getting thinner is hard work. When you're really really working at slimming down, as a person who is new to exercise, you sometimes get stuck in a hard spot of trying to keep going."

Let me try to make this clear for you, then. (1) Not all fat people are trying to lose weight. If you do or

I know a lot of folks hate shapewear, but for some of us, it's not an optional thing, really. I inadvertently lost a lot of weight, and — unlike the surgically 'corrected' winners on shows like the Biggest Loser — I need to wear compression undergarments that keep my abdominal wall from collapsing into a hernia, allow

"It literally goes against any scientific evidence ever presented to me in my entire life, ie "Exercise and restrictive diets can make you fatter," "MANY/MOST see no visible progress," "Even if you lose, you'll gain it all back.""

In that case, you need to start reading the actual research, instead of waiting for the

"There's lost and lots of evidence that diet and exercise make people slimmer, healthier and stronger in very visible ways. You can't pretend that it doesn't. "

There's lots of evidence that diet and exercise can make people healthier and stronger, in ways that may or may not be visible, externally (for example, muscle

Because even the most intensive 'fitness' regimen will not produce a body like hers (or yours) for the vast majority of women. I'm an active ,low-carb vegan, wear a size 24/26, and am very committed to fitness — but, as for most of the women I know who follow similar lifestyles, this woman's sort of body is

Her body is certainly not 'average', but "over 50% of the US female population is obese" is simply not true.
(Also, for perspective, most women classed as 'obese' would only register to most observers' eyes as "a bit chubby" — the increasingly lowered cut-offs for "obese" are now ridiculously low, and the vast majority

I'm quite certain the vast majority of the female population *couldn't* look like that, regardless of diet/lifestyle. Even if I had tens of thousands of dollars of surgery, I'd never have a figure even remotely like that. Frankly, I think anyone who thinks that body is "attainable" for most hasn't spent much time in a

I mean, everyone's body is "normal", so there's that.
But it's bizarre for me to see masses of people gushing over the "normalcy" of a woman who is, compared to the majority of women, very thin, very toned, and without visible stretchmarks, scars, or loose skin. Most of us are not sporting a body anything like that

"For others, that size could even be a 12-14."

*Even* be? That size would be far below the smallest possible size that many, many women with "proper eating and exercise" habits could ever achieve. (My own natural, healthiest size is around a 24/26; my lowest when-I-had-a-restrictive-ED-and-I-was-bedridden size was

It's perfectly legal not to hire someone based on their weight — the only jurisdictions that have protection against sizism are the state of Michigan and the city of San Francisco. It's one of the most common grounds of discrimination in employment across the board.