The only thing I can come up with is that when it comes to self-hatred, women turn it inward, as in “I’m the problem. If I weren’t so ugly/fat/stupid men would like me.” and men turn it outward, as in “They are the problem, They don’t understand me.

Honestly, I understand a lonely 60 year old being shitty and resentful. Obviously doesn’t excuse it, but at least I can see how your life not working out the way you wanted may suck.

It’s not so much that men turn it outward as they reverse cause and effect. “I don’t get laid because I’m depressed and anti-social” gets turned into “I’m depressed and anti-social because I don’t get laid” - which means, of course, that even if they did get laid it wouldn’t make them feel any better or solve any of…

I’ve been turned down for dates by more women than I can count. When I started trying to date as a teenager, my mom (divorced) would tell me, “Okay. Well, she doesn’t want to go out with you. Maybe she doesn’t like you or you’re not her type. Figure out how to be better and move on.”

The fact that your friend isn’t interested in women in his own peer group (working class, look their age) and wants a trophy girlfriend is the key to his problem right there- he doesn’t like women. He wants a possession to show off to other men; it’s got nothing to do with actual companionship.

Both genders do both things... Men are more likely to use a gun in either case though, hence why the suicide rate for men is about 4 times what it is for women... and why, to my knowledge, no woman has ever gone on a killing spree because men wouldn’t sleep with her.

I really think it’s porn.

I have an acquaintance like this too. Also in the same age range - doesn’t take care of himself, makes no effort to improve his life or advance his career or even leave the house to pursue even mildly interesting hobbies, is condescending and inappropriate... and is interested in pursuing nothing but supermodel-hot…

It’s also not about the ability to attract a woman, it’s about the ability to not be ‘given’ the ‘right’ woman by society. For your 60 year old friend, a 60 year old woman wouldn’t be acceptable, she’s past her prime while he is still a virile man!

This is why pride is a deadly sin. Your co-worker has unearned pride in himself by the tonne, and it drives all his pain.

I don’t think it’s as simple as women turn inward and men turn outward. I’m a guy (hetero & cis) and when I’ve gotten low on myself, it’s always taken the form of beating myself up.

most any of the high end or high volume artists don’t actually produce their own artwork.  they have teams of underlings.  design things entirely in computers.  or have crews that make their generic art

they’re just brands.

same with a lot of mega popular authors.   they have huge staffs of ghost writers who crank out…

He’s too cheap - that pool boy was expensive, yeah?

That was my understanding too.

I’d help them dispose of the body.... just sayin.....

Bang-fuckin’-on. My mom worked for decades in the library of a hippie college (not as a librarian, but in the direct vicinity of them), and the workplace was about 95% female - and absolutely fucking savage, with the longest, cruelest humiliations imaginable. Though perhaps it stems from the same issue - now that they…

Plus the ketamine really takes the edge off a stressful day. 

Education for the working class defines privilege to them. M&M got her money the old fashioned way, she was born with it.

Doesn’t count you see.

Your dad and my stepdad would get along famously. My stepdad had a pop at a Chinese tourist attempting to chisel their name into one of the stones at Callanais (one of the most important Neolithic sites in the world). I’m glad to report my stepdad made that idiotic little man cry and run back to his coach. We’ll let…