But what we spend in a single night isn't the equivalent of several years worth of salaries.

I get your general point, religious-saying-about-planks-in-eyes-or-casting-first-stones, etc., and I'm hypocrit-ing right along with you, but I still think the scale matters, and that this kind of thing is obscene.

lol I guess there aren't millions starving in the good ole US

You're exactly right. Almost everything we buy comes with a side of exploitation. And nothing ever changes because none of us are actually willing to sacrifice our livelihoods of relative comfort.

I was also unaware of this brand and visited their website linked from this article. Apparently they make several styles that help sculpt male genitalia to look like female genitalia. I just looked at one that had a slit in the bottom so the guy could pull out a bit of ball sac to make it look like labia. Check out…

In fairness, I don't think the people who think this dick sack is an awesome idea and the people who want ladynipples to be covered at all times are the same people.

A sock would be more erotic. A wet unnaturally grey Fruit of the Loom sock that got trapped in the drum of the washing machine, which I pulled out with a rusty wire, would be more erotic.

Yeah but everything inside would probably get cooked like a baked potato. Gotta decide how much you want it.

But god-for-fucking-bid anyone sees the tiniest hint of lady nipple.

Reading this, I could feel the pain of the author. I spent my youth in a battle against Anorexia. I'm very type A and have to be perfect. At age 8 I cut out all sweets and lost 10 pounds, people told me how great I looked. Again at 13, I went on crash diets and my pediatrician threatened to hospitalize me. My mom…

Aaah the I-Have-A-Judgmental-Perfectionist-Bitch-Of-A-Mother Club. Welcome new member, welcome.

(PS - your story broke my heart. Stay strong in spite of her.)

Here's what I'd tell my younger self: You become stronger as you get older, but you also become more forgetful. You stop cataloguing everyone's crimes against your self-esteem.

Because they hate themselves. I knew someone like that once, and that was the truth for her.

Gorgeous and painful and perfectly said. Thank you for putting this into words and for sharing these steps of your life's journey with us. I've been there, and it's so tough to "explain" it to others or to even fully understand it yourself sometimes, beyond semi-cliched ideas of control and self-imposed beauty. And…

Wow, I can't tell you how much I relate to this... and I am a man. My mother is still a fucking twig. And actually I am quite thin, too. She's a mean judgmental person when it comes to weight. And around my house, growing up, all "bad" things were brought back to weight: Didn't get good grades? "Maybe you should spend…

I don't understand how mothers can do this to us. You don't have to love your children but why hate them?

No one is asking you to ask inappropriate questions. Let me be clearer, what I really mean is this: you were dating someone, you didn't know they'd ever had sex with a man (because as you said you didn't ask, so how would they know that was a problem?). Then you find out—you would just drop them? I'm deeply…

I didn't feel that the posters in question "attacked lesbians." Did they challenge and critique (perhaps uncouthly) the concept of "gold star?" Yes, they did. You have three posters you were responding to in the comment I was addressing:

You're bigoted against bi/pan women who have slept with men. That's the bottom line. Live with that truth.

I don't think this necessarily comes off as biphobic. What immediately rings in my head is: this is pretty sex negative. So often the LGBTQ community is assumed to be sex positive and very open but this standard has always sounded very...closed. Assessing a future partner by their past partners (health…