I think "Do not ever do X in front of my child" is something of a trump card in these kinds of situations. My FIL was visiting a few weeks ago and made an off-hand joke about spanking my kid for whatever. I gave him a hard look and said "You pop him, and I'll pop you." The end.

Very true! I've been waiting forever to throw out this line for a good reason:

When my brother and I were little, my dad straight-up told his racist parents that he wanted them in their grandchildren's lives, but that if they ever said anything bigoted in front of us that we wouldn't be visiting anymore. They clearly listened, because I had no idea my grandparents were racist until my parents…

I come from a long line of people I'd like to refer to as "passively racist." There is no outright hatred, no race-based discrimination, but there are a lot of stereotypes that seem to permeate their views of minorities (especially poor minorities). I used to fight tooth-and-nail when I was a teenager but past a…

I was just about to ask the same thing. In my case, it's not MY family, exactly, but my husband's family members. Almost all of them are racist/homophobic to some degree. Now that I'm pregnant, I keep wondering, "Do I want my current fetus/soon-to-be baby/child around this?" I mean, they seem to have a hard time not…

My daughter just broke up with her girlfriend over the girl's racist statements about what was happening in Ferguson. Sounds like it has generated racist statements from people who were able to hide their racist tendencies before this. I hope we can put to rest the whole "post-racial society" trope, which wasn't true…

We don't do ignorant people any favors by enabling their ignorance.

All 3 of these friends are assholes.

Every asshole commenting on the earlier article about college guys saying women ask for it need to read this article over and over again till it sinks in that it's ALWAYS the rapist's fault.

White people never think it's about race until it involves some well aimed words at their discriminatory behavior and bigotry. Then it's all about their fee fees and how you're being racist against White people.

About half of whites (52%) say they have a great deal or fair amount of confidence in the investigations,

Some white people still think the Civil War wasn't about race. This isn't surprising.

A dose of light-heartedness: this protest sign is delightfully made!

There is a lot of racial issue willful ignorance in white America. Some of it is absolutely infuriating. Some of it said in hate but most of it said from blistering ignorance and repeated false-"facts" and mis-characterization.

Whenever I'm confused about whether something is about race or not, I check Fox News. If Fox is saying that something isn't about race, then there's a 99% chance that it is about race.*

So much of the problem is that white Americans think that racism means active, spittle-laden, profanity-spewing hatred, and nothing else. They don't understand that racism also includes the subtle, subconscious biases built into every aspect of our system - both social and governmental - that operate without us even…

47% of people who have little personal experience of hostile racism are sure that Ferguson isn't about race. Awesome.

Of the blacks polled 80 percent felt Brown's shooting raises issues around race while 18 percent did not and two didn't know. Of the whites polled, 37 percent felt the teen's death raised issues about race while 47 percent did not and 16 percent didn't know.

To acknowledge that Michael Brown's death had anything to do with race is to acknowledge there's an issue with race in this country in the first place. If my fellow white folks admit that, that opens the door for a lot of other uncomfortable admissions.

/sarcasm (in case that wasn't evident)