For many kids so much of going to a good school is just a matter of staying on the fast track to success. Take the AP classes at your private prep school, study with an SAT tutor, get into a school with an Ivy-caliber name, pick the right classes to have a solid GPA, then get funneled into your consulting job or med…

What I want to know is, when will the Family Research Council release some of that research that it's been doing? Where are all these publications in peer-reviewed journals? For the amount of money and publicity they get they should be winning the Nobel Prize in Medicine, Physiology, or Family every year by now. Or do…

Oh hey there, skeevy cowboy-hat and trenchcoat guy, nice to see you again.

I don't think I ever truly understood the concept of "victim blaming" until this very moment. Thank you for enlightening me.

Even if she does get her job back, she'd still be stuck working at the kind of place for the kind of people who would fire her over that. She deserves way better. I know this because her nice haircut proves it.

Exactly. The implied message: this (white) world has certain standerd. If you've come from a world of being poor into the normal world you wouldn't dress in rags, and if you come from a world of being black into the normal world you wouldn't keep your ethnic hairstyle.

thanks, thats a very usefull tid bit of information. ill have to start useing it on all my comments. (cq)

Three points as a fellow slobbering repressed male:

Please please don't let this be written by Hugo Schwyzer… phew.

As an honorary boy who has only been rejected by women physically, I protest that it's actually a pretty good joke.

I haven't made it to that point in a relationship yet, sadly enough. I'm always in favor of honesty and being forthright though.

People are complicated, aren't they? So many of us try to live lives in accordance with our beliefs but still worry about how society might judge us. Good for you for taking the initiative and I hope you have a long and happy relationship.

I can see the logic in that, but if I were to go that route I'd probably reverse it, just to break that one extra bit of gender discrimination.

Ugh. My mother kept her maiden name when she married. In 1969 or thereabouts. People dealt with it. It did cause a little confusion in my elementary school IIRC but they got over it. Sometimes people didn't understand that my parents were actually still married to each other. Then again, my mother may have been a…

Good for you and good for him. I personally don't think I'd want to change my name or have my spouse change theirs, just as my mother kept her maiden name. Maybe the woman had just never encountered a Mr. StupidBurner before?

Lots of people end up feel more comfortable driving down the well-worn grooves of society's gender roles, even against their better judgment. I hope you didn't interpret her attitude as an indictment of feminism at least. Wishing you the best of luck in the future.

pics? preferably #gifs?

I thought it was a/s/l?

…good for her! (Maybe a bit TMI? j/k) Guys aren't all brainiacs or enigmas and a straightforward sincere approach can often do wonders.

Well, I think it's important to be yourself, particularly when it comes to something like demonstrating egalitarian attitudes in dating interactions. (I can't say that's worked out particularly well for me personally though.) People are different, but I can say that I'm kind of shy and hesitant to take the initiative…