Wait what?

So what you're saying is that it sucks to be human. Couldn't agree more.

That sounds like the way I talk to my cat. Hmmm…

Two guys. Two. One plus one. Barely plural.

Uh, sorry, but that does come off as mean-spirited when you're suggesting that you'd willingly choose to have quick sex with someone who you know lacks interest in sex.

See, that's what I feel awful about, that you'd feel guilty for turning a guy down. No matter what, you don't owe sex to anyone. Ever. Any decent guy would decline in a heartbeat if you only offered sex out of a sense of obligation. I'm sorry you felt that way and people took advantage of it, and I hope you're in a…

Jeez, I mean, if someone is looking for a long-term relationship but isn't willing to wait a freaking month and a half, good riddance. But I think it's reasonable to expect and to desire some sort of physical intimacy after you've been on a few dates. Or is that just me?

Wait… did you decide you were asexual based on those symptoms? Because I think I feel pretty similarly about sex but I don't think I'd describe myself as asexual, maybe just as having a low sex drive. Sorry if I'm offending you or anything, I guess I just always understood asexuality as, you know, an absence of…

Meh

And if you managed to find that pun funny I want to date you.

Is it that their idea of "average" is the hottest girl, or that their idea of "average" is far below their own self-image?

Maybe the more "nerdy" guys are still clinging to the fantasy of the "hot" woman as the manic pixie dream girl who will see them for who they really are and fall in love and cook and clean for them too. Perhaps the more attractive men have actually experienced relating to those "hot" women and are aware of the…

What is the statistical distribution of 1-10 ratings anyhow? Is it uniform, Gaussian, chi-squared, Rayleigh, or what? Given how often it comes up and how much it's asserted I'm putting my bets on it being hyperbolic.

What was it about you that made them think they'd get that social standing, if you don't mind my asking? I mean, you sound like a pretty with-it person and expressive writer, but that's not always highly valued on the dating scene unfortunately.

Thank goodness you've been able to have positive experiences with people, even outside of a relationship. People can be so incredibly cruel to each other, whether intentionally or not. Do you feel content where you are now? Are you still looking for a relationship that involves more than casual sexual contact?

What? Seriously? And do you think they were being honest with you? (P.S. that's technically only 85.7%.)

But yeah, I've been in the situation where I'm not interested in a relationship with someone (I guess you could say I found them "not good enough") but they wanted a relationship with me and still wanted sex with me. Ugh. Not fun. Even though I'm open about how I feel they still aren't willing to accept that I guess.…

You think sex doesn't exist in a vacuum? You haven't seen the dust mites in my dustbuster then.

The thing is, I can definitely sympathize with you, and I feel much the same way: I just don't want actual sex during that getting-to-know-you phase of dating, although I have no moral or religious objection to it. And yet if my partner said something like that I don't think I'd stick around either. The problem is…

Well, I suppose in some respects I have yet to turn in my v-card, and I'm now in my early thirties(!), but it's not for any religious reason, and it's not for lack of opportunity… I just haven't yet met someone I feel that way about. Am I supposed to feel weird or ashamed about this? Is it that big a deal? My…