I know I'm going to get throttled for this, but there's some baby in her mostly-insane bathwater. I am not a fan of GMO crops. This is not because I think they are poisonous or "toxic" it's because I am not convinced that enough independent research was undertaken with regard to how the GMO's effect the food system as…

Holy fucking shit, that dog is so cute that it makes me legitimately kind of angry because my body doesn't know how to react. I want to eat it.

You get it.

Sofia Vergara is 42 and is considered old? I thought Esquire wrote some nonsensical, mansplaining, boner-prose about how 42 year old women were still eminently bang-worthy.

There will never be a post about notorious RBG where this picture is not appropriate.

cereal is way, way better when the milk is almond milk

"I think she likes sex already."

Can I just surrender my uterus now? It's become more trouble than it's worth.

Fuck Nicholas Sparks and his lachrymose, chock-full-o'white-people bullshit word-product.

Yes, we don't stomach honor killings here in the educated west. We just torment the girls until they do it themselves, you know, like good Christians.

The solution is Protestantism. I base this on nothing more than a protestant lesbian priest once getting me drunk at a bar and making out with me.

So many hugs - SO MANY. I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I'm so sorry for everything she has been through. Your friends might have an instinct to protect you - and so do I. It wasn't a marriage (or that long), but I have suffered abuse that was mostly emotional and all the excuses you say really strike a…

I second the recommendation for getting therapy and bringing this relationship to an end. You've been together for 12 years and you describe the whole time as being fraught with some kind of challenge. Sometimes things just need to come to an end. It doesn't make you a failure, I doesn't mean you will never find…

Plus do what you need do to remain SAFE. Even if this means that you are up to a bunch of stuff, which will feel like you are doing "behind her back", in the months, weeks, and days before you leave. Be prepared, have a safe place to go, get all your affairs completely in order before you go. If you can, talk to a…

Ok I don't know if it's autocorrect or just faulty typing, but the book is Why DOES He Do that, lol. And just for reference, in my situation it was 99% mental/emotional and like 1% physical abuse. I didn't even realize I was IN an abusive relationship until I read that book. And then it was like...classic textbook.…

Everybody else has really good advice, and I just want to add one thing: Focus on taking care of you, not managing her feelings or choices. If a person isn't a complete jerk (and you sound like you're not), it can be really hard to break up with someone because part of you will always find a reason why they need you.…

I mean, chances are you haven't been legally married long enough to qualify, since equality has only been a recent development, but you should definitely talk to a lawyer once you make your decision and before telling your wife. The lawyer will know what to do. Hit up your state bar's referral service, they are…

From another recent poster type person in a similarly difficult long-term relationship...I feel you. :( I would feel too hypocritical giving you a lot of advice because it's not like I'm doing well with my own situation, but I'm really glad you have a good individual therapist. At the VERY LEAST it's great for…

Dude, you should totally become a pimp now.

Puppy sitting and Sufjan. Are dudes welcome to post here? I like the vibes here.