It’s a state gift from Finland. They aren’t going off her bridal registry from Bed Bath and Beyond here. They just wanted to acknowledge her in a way that nodded to her actual interests.

She’s been vocal about her love of cooking though and used to have a lifestyle blog and posted recipes and stuff so I think it’s safe to say the present wasn’t made with any sexist intention to make her the perfect Stepford royal.

I gave an apron to my coworker who is about to get married, but she loves to cook, is obsessed with the concept of becoming Mrs. LastName, and I suggested she use it between the ceremony and reception when they eat to avoid dropping any food in her lap, thus stains on her dress before more posed pictures.

Well Harry’s a Prince now and they cook together. This is probably what they were referencing.

Harry did propose while they were roasting chicken.

That’s the thing—she loves to cook.

She does love to cook...

Meghan was briefly a lifestyle blogger aiming hardcore to get a Food Network gig. If anything the apron was a surprisingly thoughtful gift for a state gift that actually reflects her interests.

I’m on the receiving end of that troll’s, er, people skills for a couple days now.

This was oddly my first thought as well

I agree particularly about needing conversations “about real actual communication between human beings dating.”

He chose white wine without asking if she preferred red. Clearly he doesn’t care about consent!

EXACTLY

Are you saying that she thought Aziz Ansari might assault or murder her if she said she didn’t want to have sex with him? I saw nothing in her account of the evening that indicated that possibility ever crossed her mind.

I don’t know... that seems like too strong of a blanket statement. People push each others’ boundaries, and some people enjoy having their boundaries pushed.

And some people need encouragement for any of the above.

I deeply resent the argument that asks why a woman doesn’t leave a situation like this is victim blaming. This was not a case where she was threatened or intimidated. It was an evening where she felt uncomfortable with the sexual activity she was actively participating in, and did not stand up for herself and say no…

To me, its also the vindictive angle about it. It was only when she sees that he just won a Golden Globe that she decides “The world needs to know he’s sexually aggressive”. An anonymous account of the incident for BOTH parties, could have illustrated the point and been described in the same amount of detail. Yet, the…

This is a reasonable take. Aziz would be pretty damn near 100% at fault in this situation for being a fucking clueless boar, but I’m certainly teaching my daughter not to put up with ANY shit remotely near what he pulled. Loudly and clearly and insistently and, if necessary, violently.

This is the best most reasonable comment I have read on the matter. At no point did she say no, stop, or try to leave. She said it with “body language” even tho she thought it was cool to hang out nude all night. May want to be a little more clear before you say you were assaulted.

re: the threads you posted, the thing about “soft signals” and basically meaning that if this is assault then just about every man is now guilty...what the fuck do we do now? how do we proceed? and how, if we’re wanting to do the proverbial nasty, do we do it Properly, especially if we’re not the great social…