““Why mom isn’t doing it.” But guess what: We are. And we are working full time. And making dinner. And carrying the mental load of food shopping, the family’s events calendar, chores and everyone’s health.”

Don’t even get me started on how antiquated our school system is. When I am Queen of the Universe, school will be 8:30am-5:30pm, with multiple recesses for young kids and multiple study halls for older kids and “extracurriculars” all built in. It’ll be year-round with short, regular breaks (maybe a week off every 6…

It won’t.

I’m a democrat. I’ve been the primary care taker, along with my husband, for two relatives with dementia. It was an agonizing years-long journey for both of them. Painful for all. I took some hits at work in terms of advancement but am okay with that as it was more important to me to be with my ailing relatives and…

What pisses me off the most (not only, but the MOST) about that whole “wimminz be raisin’ the babies!” thing is that there is not one culture, anywhere, at any time in history, where the majority of women were not working. And I don’t mean the endless unpaid labor of home and child care, I mean paid work—in factories…

Really what we need is parental leave overhaul. Because the thing is, if we make parental leave - regardless of gender - a thing, and develop significant cultural support for it, then it will help women significantly. Not just in terms of reforming maternity leave and creating mandatory paid maternity leave for all…

YES I KNOW THAT THEY ARE TWO DIFFERENT COUNTRIES. I’m on Jezebel, who do you think I’ve been voting for for the past 15 years?

If we’re being honest, the entire childcare/work balance relationship is broken beyond belief in the United States (and probably elsewhere).

You’re kidding right? We’re all asking for it. In the UK, it’s federally mandated. All we have here is FMLA, which secures your job for 12 weeks, and that’s only if your company meets certain criteria. There is no paid maternity leave mandated by any form of government in the US, but trust me, we’re fucking yelling…

This. I’m all for men having these priorities and for men wanting work/life balance. But let’s also acknowledge two things:

Who spit in your bean curd?

Repeat after me, guys: Feminism is good for men. Women’s issues are men’s issues. That is all.

These bros piss me off. Because I know their type and they take every opportunity to bring up their kids. Because, unlike their female coworkers, they get to use having kids as an “head of household” credential to ride that glass elevator straight up. Whereas for women, it works the other way around.

Maybe? Until it is understood and expected that both parents want to act as parents in raising their kids, nothing will be done. Women asking for it was never enough because working women have always been treated as the exception, not the rule. Even when most households have two working parents.

My work has gone to paid parental leave (2 mo), and short term disability for 2 months, and the two months paid includes all birth and adoptive parents. You’re starting to see men take advantage of it, and that’s great, but the consequences for them are so minimal. If anything they are lauded for taking time with…

Capitalism wants more workers, doesn’t want to cover the labor and expense of creating them and so offloads it onto current workers while still demanding the total output of their labor for current industry.

I support maternity and paternity leave strongly. But the idea that choosing to raise children should have no impact on your standing at work doesn’t seem reasonable to me. Considering overpopulation, global warming and rapidly decreasing natural resources there is no need, or logical reason, to have children. To…

So now that shitty parental leave policies are affecting men (because more men have realized they want to be more involved as parents) does this mean we’ll finally get some improvement in paid parental leave? I guess it wasn’t important when women were asking for it. Sigh.

I feel bad for the Dad but... my need to leave at 5pm to get home and feed my under 1 child is questioned, and counts against me at my job.

It’s like society wants you to have children and then it punishes you for having children and at the same time hates you if you don’t want to have children.