You experience is anecdotal. The broad statistical evidence shows that children of smokers more frequently smoke and children of drinkers more frequently  drink, children of abusers more frequently abuse and so on.

Thank you.

I can’t figure out the abuse porn stuff. Physically demanding porn where two actors who are in top physical condition and move through a variety of positions that are aspirational to most viewers has its moments. But just abusive porn is useless. There are quite a few women who dropped out because they signed up for a…

It accomplishes expressing out loud in a blunt way the way things really are, without softening it to protect men’s egos.

If you want to see the way that I see, you’d see that I really really really don’t want to hear about your porn preferences or hurt male feelings in a discussion on alarmingly violent sexual abuse. Can you see that?

I have two teenager girls and with porn being so available, it makes me incredibly nervous that, because anything can been seen anytime, it will make things that are kink or fetish more “expected”, rather than something that people do because it’s something they are into, so more young women and women general are…

There are people that enjoy this stuff, they enjoy watching it, they enjoy doling it out, they enjoy being on the receiving end. And honestly I can understand enjoying rough sex. But this crossed a line from rough sex solidly into the territory of violence in which sex was also occurring. There’s a difference between…

Or maybe a significant amount of learned sexual behaviour and expectations hurts and is something we should address culturally?

I’m glad to hear someone else say this, because I honestly think this too. The number of men who have just tried to strangle me during sex without asking (I’m not into it and even the slightest suggestion of violence or force turns me off instantly, but even if that weren’t the case, you can’t just DO that shit…

You’re talking about the “harm” that generalizing does in the context of a conversation about violent misogyny? Get some perspective dude.

I feel like so much porn is about hurting and humiliating women — I’d be more inclined to find it a turn on if it was better in that respect. I feel like when I watch porn, my libido goes down the drain, so I stay away. The pictures I can create in my head or from reading a book are much sexier to me.

I had a very brief porn career and while I never experienced anything close to this, it left me pretty bruised emotionally. Having an average build kinda made it hard to book jobs because I wasn’t heavy enough for BBW but not thin enough for most “average” shoots. I certainly left with body image issues but the men I…

It is already happening and has been for a while. See the episode of Sex and the City where Miranda is dating a guy who only wants to mimic porn acts he’s watching when they hook up. I teach sex ed and had a college-aged guy recount his first sexual experience, which he reported was humiliating. He ended up…

NPR had a program recently that focused on a high school target class called something like “porn proficiency.” Basically, talking to kids about porn. It was nice to hear adults talking to young men and women about what they’re seeing being entertainment and not based in reality. They reported many young girls being…

Men who hate women.

There are a lot of porn tags out there that lead into this kind of thing. It’s really weird to me, because I watch gay porn (being married to a dude) but I watch a bit of straight porn. I find the straight porn has weird categories that come up, like “anal pain” which seems all about coercing women into having painful…

I like how you’re all ignoring the racial aspect of this.

I find it utterly terrifying. I am so worried about the girls of the future. There are dudes that watch this shit and think it’s normal and consensual....

There’s this thing called rape culture...

Holy Christ. Also: who the fuck enjoys watching this shit?